2006-12-27 03:01:58 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
serves you right!
I guess she was better than you too!
2006-12-27 03:03:06 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying that "you reap what you sow". In other words, what you do comes back to you - and ten fold. You should have not let your boyfriend do that. I can't imagine why you did that or what you were thinking. You basically put a big red bow on your boyfriend and said "here is a free boyfriend. come and get him". Of course they developed feelings for each other; that's obvious. Not only did you bring them together but you also said "hey, why don't you get intimate while you are at it and get to know each other on a personal level that a boyfriend and girlfriend or married couple would". There really isn't anything to say to help you here. You just have to realize that you made a very bad mistake and error in judgement and move on.
2006-12-27 03:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by achristian520 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear!! What were you thinking!!?? Hun first thing is first you need to discuss this with your boyfriend. Find out if he has feelings for your friend since this has happened and ask how does he feel about you? Fact is you can't have your cake and eat it too.
After you have done that it's either of 2 things you can do hun... If your boyfriend does NOT have feelings for your friend , then you need to speak with your friend and let her know that "hey I approved this, but it isn't to happen again. My boyfriend and I have talked and it was a one time thing" I also suggest dear that your boyfriend be pressent when this takes place, you and your friend talking.
This will prevent the he said he like me, she said this and all that elementary stuff.
Once this talking session has taken place I think that you and your boyfriend should stay away from this friend of yours for a while. Not doing so could bring this up all over again, something you don't want to happen..right?!
Ok now if your boyfriend does have feelings for this friend of yours , well dear there isn't a lot you can do about it. You see you allowed this to happen. I hate to break this to you hun but this is a mistake that you could have prevented! So there's no since in crying over spilled milk. What to do now?
What you do now is ask your boyfriend if he still likes you and does he plan on doing this again with your friend. No one ever plans things, sometimes they just happen. But you need to ask him this for your own peace of mind.
If his feelings are moreso for your friend then tell him that you made a mistake in allowing this to happen and let him know how you feel about him. And that you don't want this relationship to be over. But if he thinks he can't move on with you and not be with your friend anymore then sweetcheeks you will have no choice but to let him go and move on yourself without him.
Don't be upset with your friend and hating because remember you let this happen. So in the furture hun don't suggest that your friend do sexual stuff with your boyfriend 99.999% of the time it want turn out the way you want it too.. but just like it's happened now.
Think next time hun don't pass your boyfriend around like a peice of hamburger meat to your friends for sampling they might like it!!
Good luck remember what I said dear.
ps
If your boyfriend was really into you and liked you than I have to question his real feelings here also. Because if that were the case he would have refused to allow such nonsense!
2006-12-27 03:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by ssgtmommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ah ha thats the most bizzare question ive ever read. i can see if you three where in on it together but to let just ur bf and your friend have sexual relations with each other then your actions have a reaction, and the reaction turned into feeling, and now your hurt.
move on, i mean it. he wasnt really a bf, and your friend wasnt even a friend
2006-12-27 03:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why the h*ll did you let your friend do somethin sexual wth your boyfriend anyway! sounds like that relationship didnt mean much to ya. and of course they're going to develop feeling for each other now! good gracious.....all i can tell ya is:: too late now gurl ! ya lost ur bf so now just move on!
2006-12-27 03:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by Kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to say you have yourself to blame for this one. If you don't respect yourself and your relationship enough to prohibit your friend and boyfriend (actually your boyfriend and anyone else) that don't be mad when you are not respected. You can't swing or have an open relationship and not accept the possible outcomes.
2006-12-27 03:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what did you expect it to go?
you could not have thought about this on did you
lets see I let him and her do stuff, and they are going to hate it and walk away..NOT!!
well first you need to sit down wit one and then the other and talk to them, and maybe both together and talk it out, unless your boyfriend says first he likes her better than you, then no need to talk to her ..you set them up with each other..but I can bet he is going to say he likes you better, and maybe still see her...
and WHY DID YOU DO THIS, can you tell me!
good luck
smile
2006-12-27 11:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid you cannot do that.The harm has been done already.There is no need to cry over spill milk.What you need to do now is to change your perception about relationship with men and have ago again.Be smart this time.Good luck.
2006-12-27 03:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by sametefe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.......I wonder why?????
Maybe it's time for a new friend and a new boyfriend.
Or maybe get some tips from her on how to make a man happy; she obviously has better skills than you.
2006-12-27 03:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by CuriousMishawaka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too late. Healthy relationships have boundaries. You asked your bf to cheat on you openly and with your permission. Now you have to suffer the consequences. Get rid of him and start over and do it right. Jeez.
2006-12-27 03:04:47 · answer #10 · answered by twicewise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry i have to agree what were you thinking letting your friend do stuff with your boyfriend! Come on what did you expect
2006-12-27 03:04:44 · answer #11 · answered by SB33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋