met this girl back in June. She had a BF. (now..dec 19th 06' has been with him a year) she stated he cheated when they first started but she trusts him now and said he hasnt done it since. Anyway. We connected in a flash..the same interests weird attitudes, and warm hearts. We started seeing eachother alot..led to kissing dinners and eventually intimacy. all this time he was away in costa rica she was here. she said when she goes back to school with him that she has to see her feelings. We ended up falling in love and told eachother.She told me in september that the right thing to do is stay with him cause she loves him to. from sept till now we still talk alot and when she comes home we meet up and hang out. she still feels the same and so do i and we've kissed and and still very close. SHe decided if we're to remain close to not act on our impulses. Cuz we mean alot to eachother. she made a promise if anything happens one day. we'll be together.
2006-12-27 03:00:55 · 24 answers · asked by V P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You say that this girl said her BF cheated on her, but she is doing the exact same thing with you. I would suggest you back away from this relationship and let her get her life together on her own. If you get together in the future, let it be for the right reasons and under the right circumstances. Now is not the time.
2006-12-27 03:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteChocolate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is being the second man in her life good enough? I feel for you as it plainly seems she is using you. She is benefiting by keeping you around. You are allowing her to dictate to you. If she loved you she would be with you period. She knows you will wait around for her but the other man won't. I wonder how she would react if you told her you met someone and was dating. She probably wouldn't like it and maybe even get upset with you. My point is that you are Plan B. You are the backup boyfriend. One who will buy her things and treat her like a queen. You see, your too easy of a catch. She don't have to chase after you. But she is chasing after the other guy. This should infuriate you. You should want more for yourself. You know in your heart what she is doing to both of you guys is not right. Do you really want a woman who can be with 2 guys guilt free?? There are so many beautiful women out there who would love to be apart of your life. Either way she's willing to risk your love, so why aren't you?? I hope you find a beautiful woman who loves you and only you. Don't you feel you deserve that? Good Luck & God Bless!
2006-12-27 03:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is using you. She is also cheating on her boyfriend. Do you really want someone who obviously has lied to you [and the other man] repeatedly? You need to stop being available to her and find someone else. I am sorry you have been disappointed this way, but you do not 'have' her, and hanging on is not going to change this. If she left her boyfriend and came to you - she is NOT a good relationship risk; she has already proved that; you'd be better off to not see her again.
2006-12-27 03:05:48 · answer #3 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really know what to do. She is putting you on the backburner. She is using you for comfort while her bf is in costa rica. If anything were to happen that made it possible for you two to be together, I would plan on NEVER going on vacation alone.
2006-12-27 03:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie aka Rosie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she cheated on her boyfriend, what makes you think she won't do the same thing to you if you eventually are together? She sounds confused and should probably not be in a relationship.
2006-12-27 03:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by adangerousidea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to no longer subject it happens to many folk. regrettably, there are some that blow it out of share and act like this is a criminal offense despite the fact that this is not. basically the different day I asked a question below "television" thinking it may be interior the "fact" area and it ended up interior the "comedy" area. It wasn't intentional. It happens so do no longer beat your self up approximately it.
2016-11-23 19:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by trif 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you put yourself in that situation for seeing someone already taken. If she didn't have the respect to call it off with her BF before seeing you there is no telling how many people she is sleeping with and telling them the same thing. she told you. Think about it........
Respect is given until it's not returned and trust is earned, she has neither
2006-12-27 03:18:32 · answer #7 · answered by goodfella150 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By all means be friendly with her dude....but its not gonna come to anything more than that. She likes you...doesnt love you. If thats enough for you enjoy her friendship....if not move on. Do NOT hang around hoping for a split between her and her REAL boyfriend.
2006-12-27 03:06:19 · answer #8 · answered by J D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is just a suggestion but if you will notice in your question it was always she,what about you decide whats more important to you she is playing on your feelings if the relationship is not important enough to her then find someone else even though it may hurt awhile in the long run you will be better for it
2006-12-27 03:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is cheating on her boyfriend, she will do it to you as well! How do you love someone and cheat on them? Nice situation for her, she has her man at home and she has you.
Move on, get someone who wants you now and who isnt going to give you excuses on why you cant be together.
2006-12-27 03:05:10 · answer #10 · answered by BadGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋