I've been with my man for going on 6 years, and up to the 5 year mark, i got along with his mother just wonderfully, we'd go out to lunch, have coffee, go shopping, etc.... and i loved her to pieces.... now, we'll be at 6 years in may, and I haven't been to their house once in the last 4 or 5 months where i didn't leave with my feelings hurt and crying.... For christmas, we decided that he would spend his holiday with his folks, and I would travel the 150 miles to my family's place, and come home crhistmas evening and then we'd do christmas with his folks and me (they'd already done their stuff on christmas), just a gift exchange, on tuesday night after we all got home from work. I showed up there last night with a huge bag of presents for his mom and dad, and she flew off the handle yelling at everyone that she didn't want to have christmas again, and ate dinner and she went to bed while i was crying in the spare bedroom. I don't know what i did, and neither does my guy or his dad...
2006-12-27
02:56:41
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Silver Thunderbird
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I am 23, my man is 28, and his mom is only 46. His dad is 53, and the dog is 2.
lol no kids.
2006-12-27
03:05:20 ·
update #1
I'm just really sick of walking on eggshells around her anymore, and before, i was okay with it, because i was determined to beat the norm, and have a good relationship with my inlaws because i grew up not even knowing my father's family because there was such friction between them and my mom. my father in law is wonderful, when we have disagreements, at least he's open minded enough to talk them out with me. But she's not the type to talk. her way or no way, period. and i'm not like that, i'm very open minded, and can understand if she's having problems, but she only takes them out on me. she married VERY young, around 14, and she regrets having been tied down all her life, and every time we'd talked a few years ago, all she could talk about was that she wished she was single. I think i remind her of her dream to have her own life, and it bothers her to see me sometimes..... but i shouldn't have to put up with being treated like dog crap. There's no talking, what else can i do?
2006-12-27
04:24:07 ·
update #2
the last big argument we had, i had bought some birthday presents for my step daughter and was going to send them to her (i still have never met her,and her daddy hasnt been allowed tosee her since she was 3, she's 9 now) and his mom flew off the handle then and said that i shouldn't attempt anything because it's not my place. Every time i try to do something nice for anyone in that family, i get smacked in the face.
2006-12-27
04:33:50 ·
update #3