he's all sweet around me, but then when we are around his friends, he acts like i don't exist and toally ignores me
2006-12-27 02:55:04 · 24 answers · asked by Allie m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a GUY thing they all do it to a point. But they get over it. Enjoy the times that y'all are together.
2006-12-27 02:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he's just being a guy or he might not care for you as much as you think. A lot of guys will be like that, and can still love you with all of their heart. On the other hand, you could just be his arm candy when out, and someone to be with when not, and that's not good at all. You have to read the signs, try to understand what he's doing. You don't want to end up getting hurt over something you could have stopped a long time ago. Ask him directly why he does this, maybe there is a good reason for him, then ask him to change it. Tell him how it makes you feel when he does those things. If he's willing to change it, and shows it to you, then maybe he really does care. But if it seems that he's forcing himself to do it, then I'd say it's time to go. Again, the best thing to do is talk about it, you will get answers that way.
2006-12-27 03:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by Steve S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I have seen before one person or the other will generally put on a front around their friends that makes them act differently (often more like they were before they met you), it is normal and as long as he really still shows he cares about you when it truly matters then everything is ok. Eventually if things go well it will mostly be the two of you anyways ;). I suggest that you don't let it get to you too much.
2006-12-27 03:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by n3p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, that's just how guys do. There's nothing personal about it. It's not an intentional negative thing towards you. It's just a guy thing. I don't know how to explain it. Guys act very differently around their girlfriends than they do their guy friends or buddies. It's the typical locker room banter thing. It's just a guy thing. It's one of those simple things where he has probably made up a bunch junk about how much of a man he is and how he is the king of his own castle and then if he acts mushy with you around then he takes a bunch of crap for it. That's the best way I know to explain it. But not all guys are this way. This is just the typical stereotype.
2006-12-27 02:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by achristian520 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a lame guy thing.You see when guys are young it is more important to be considered rough than it is to be considered sweet. So when he has his friends around he wants to act like he has it under control which is far from the truth. The more his confidence increases as well as maturity he will come to realize it is far better to be yourself than it is to try and please your friends or put on a cool act for them.
Oh by the way don't do that flirt thing. Very bad idea.
Be patient with him.
2006-12-27 03:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys try to act cool around their friends, sometimes they feel if they show any emotion, they are showing a weakness. It's really an insecurity issue he has. I don't know how long I'd tolerate that behavior, it's rude. I had someone I was dating do the same thing to me, I asked him about it, he just said he was trying to be cool. He'd always later apologize to me, but I hated it. I quit dating him and I'm much happier since. You don't deserve that treatment.
2006-12-27 02:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off: Maybe he doesn't know who is better. I mean he has to choose when he's around all of you. If thats the case and he chooses his friends maybe your relationship is not going to work out.
Second: I guess he does need some guy time with his guys but again thats no excuse to ignore you.
My advice: Maybe you should talk to him and find out why he does that. Maybe he doesn't realize that he does that.
2006-12-27 03:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Xo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
appears like he's probably no longer over you yet. it may look wierd becuase it sounds like it became his determination to break up, yet basically because of the fact he didnt desire to be your bf doesnt advise he's thoroughly lost all those emotions for you. in line with threat he additionally doesnt be attentive to the thank you to act like pals with you with out appearing like a boyfriend. or in line with threat he's frightened of having too close and you desiring greater then friendship from him.
2016-10-28 11:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hunnt think of this, guys are big show offs, and they will act different aruond you because of that reason, its not that you dont exist, he just dont want his friends to see how musshy he really is, coz his budz wont let it down, so he act like i dont care.
but when your alone thats when the real guy comes out, dont question yourself about this, just remember this, men like us ladies have altered egos around certian people. what triggers it is our friends, expecally the ones who cant keep relationships, will drag your bf down and there for he will act weird
dont worry to much, just know that when you guys are alone thats when it matters, your time together
2006-12-27 03:07:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to act cool. I had a bf that acted the same way. You need to tell him how you feel. He should understand. Good Luck.
2006-12-27 02:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by Kailey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a lot of it has to do with his age, how old is he? If he's not secure with himself, then he probably isn't real secure around his buddies, and in turn, he's not going to show any kind of emotion around them. TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL. it won't get any better until you make him acknowledge you, and if he doesn't want to show you the respect enough to say "hey, this is my girlfriend and i love her" in front of his friends, then you don't need him.
good luck, and happy new year!
2006-12-27 02:59:51 · answer #11 · answered by Silver Thunderbird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋