hey all,
Thanks for your help time and time again..I have another ?
I posted that on christmas i broke it off with my guy..I told him am done.basically i had it..any way I went through his voiemail last night..and why there was a female on there talking about..hey its me (her name) I like the text message you sent me..I really apprecaite it..and it make me want to do what you said in it..just let me know when this week..that will be my christmas gift to you..I miss you..
now ladies we are not stupid..a message like that can mean one thing he wants to f*ck her..I mean if he say that he loves me..how can he move on sooo fast..I dont know what to do..we spoke lastnight and we said that we want to be together but that mesage I can get it out of my mind..I am very upset with my boyfriend..here i am trying to make us have a happy life and he is willing to have sex with someone else so fast..I know that i need time away from him..I just dont want to be without him..help me please
2006-12-27 02:51:44 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks guys..I love you!!..
2006-12-27 03:04:19 · update #1
we have been together for a year and a half...and i busted him before through his voicemail..with another chick..stating that she appeciates him and that he is the first thing that she see in the morning and he makes her day..also he had her buy him a pair of jordans..he lied at first then fest up and sid he gave her the money so that she can buy it on ebay..but when i heard the message she siad that she was in footlocker.
apart of me know i need to go..then he will know what he had..i am such a good classy decent person I will do anything for anyone..I am susch a people persons..and I dont ask alot of my boyfriend..
2006-12-27 03:10:31 · update #2
It seems to me that he already had this girl while you two were together. ANd like you said you are not stupid, you know what that means. I would not jump in head first with getting back with your boyfriend. IM not saying just leave him alone but I would take serious caution if you really want to work it out with him
2006-12-27 02:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by Bantuknots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it !!! What are you a glutant for punishment? This was only one message that you heard. What about any others you may not know about? Or better yet what about his reply back to this chick? Do you think he said "ummm, I made a mistake I love my girl and I can't do this to her" NOT !!!! He probably already set the date to meet up with her. If he hasn't done it already. Look I don't know your history apparently you have asked a few questions here for help. But this is crazy. Let him go. Once you get him out of your system you can make room for someone else. Perhaps the one who will treat you better. Keep that message in your head, it will help you make the right decision. Good luck.
2006-12-27 03:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by nikkid6910705 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you broke it off he is looking for a rebound, so he probably seen it coming and already started geting friendly with other girls. You should probably not be going through his voicemails, maybe thats one of the reasons you guys are having problems in the first place. Not trying to take sides, just playin devils advocate. For the needing time away but dont want to be without him, you cant have your cake and eat it too, you cant expect him not to move on especially if you were the one who broke it off.
2006-12-27 02:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by melmc1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get with a liar. He wants to be able to do another girl and have you believe he loves you. Keep it broke off,you know you don't need drama,nor do you need to be someones secret,because obviously that's what you'll be,a secret to ever other woman he'll be willing to sleep with and who don't mind being with him. Do yourself a favor,don't obssess over it,and stop talking to him,because he won't tell you any sort of truth,and you came on here for an honest answer,and here it is,He's screwing you over,and your just struggling with the fact that you truly loved him,and aren't ready to move on after like two days,yet he is,which in all reality shows where his heart was during the whole relationship.
2006-12-27 03:04:24 · answer #4 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two broke up, then anything that happens now is none of your business.
He's obviously LYING to you when he says he loves you and I'll bet dollars to donuts that he's been f*cking other females while you two were still together.
Tomorrow is a brand new day without him. Change your phone number and avoid him for a very long time. In a month or two you won't even remember what he looked like.
2006-12-27 02:57:53 · answer #5 · answered by vicarious_notion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at the beginning, you invaded his privateness. So breaking apart with him consistent with tips you retrieved through dealing together with his very own issues, would make you seem as though an insanely jealous and paranoid woman. He would have the skill to declare which you made him cheat on you when you consider which you're too controlling or however. . . 2d of all, you may in no way verify if what you examine and heard is robust tips. consistent with risk there's a stable rationalization for it and you're in basic terms leaping to conclusions. third of all, in case you do decide directly to confront him approximately it, then say sorry first for invading his privateness and you do not have accomplished it, yet you nevertheless would decide directly to appreciate what this capacity for you and him and your dating together. If he particularly needs to be with you.
2016-12-15 09:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really you need to move on... obviously he was cheating on you Psycologically, and that is a big no no for me at least, i dont appreciate someone ******** with my mind... i would be less upset if my fiance found another dude in a bar and fu.cked him rather than sending text messages back and fourth and phone calls, and e-mails and such. you need to get him out of your mind... the relationship is torn and its only going to rip more if you continue, thats been my experience anyways
2006-12-27 02:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by Jesus Built My Hotrod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you lose trust, all is gone. You will never let go of the voice mail you heard and keep bringing it up and it will continue drama between you and him. Did he give you his code or did you break it? I've done the same thing with my ex, He was lying the whole time but claiming to love me, he had multiple women on his VM. Men do move on quick, its us who hold on to the pain and dwell in it!
2006-12-27 02:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by sw312 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need a break from him. That message will drive you crazy and you won't be able to fully trust him. It sounds like you might be better off without him anyway. After time apart, you will see what the best choice for you is.
2006-12-27 02:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by JM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is rough. I went through a similar situation with someone but it was email instead of voice mail. It might not mean anything. But if he has another girl that quickly, maybe he was pursuing her when you all were still together.
It is a tough situation. When I went through it, I just told her we needed some time apart to see how we felt about each other.
It worked itself out.
Good luck!
2006-12-27 02:55:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋