2006-12-27 02:43:32 · 29 answers · asked by Fruitful 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesn't he a history of cheating
2006-12-27 02:52:06 · update #1
Unless he has a history of lying and cheating,I wouldn't imagine the worst. I'm guilty of not communicating as much when I'm visiting someone . Learn to trust until you have reason not too. Otherwise,you'll be miserable all the time. You can't control someone's every move or expect them to have to report every detail of their day to you. It becomes very draining. He also may not feel comfortable talking around his Dad. Some parents resent their children talking on the phone alot when their children are visiting. My Mom is that way . I would suggest a self help book on insecurity or maybe you can find something on the internet. Work at staying busy with your friends and family when he is out of town. Work on being more independant. We can't expect someone else to be in control of our complete happiness. That is a scary place to put yourself. Have your own backup support group. There is no guarantee that any relationship will last forever so always havea backup plan. Good luck to you dear. Happy New Year!
2006-12-27 02:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by wonder woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely NO way to know the answer to this question based on the information you are providing. Maybe he is just having fun and has been busy. Has he cheated before? Do you have other reasons to suspect that he might? The fact that you are even wondering this is a big red flag. The question is this: is it a red flag that he could be a cheater (based on other factors besides just this), or is it a red flag that you have security issues you need to deal with? Only you can answer this question. If it is just you, then here is a nifty trick: YOU call HIM. If not, then maybe you need to reconsider this relationship, regardless of what he is doing with his dad.
2006-12-27 10:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...not necessarily! Do YOU think he is cheating?
Couldn't he just be preoccupied with his family and enjoying them?
It has been my experience that the "thing" you worry about the most as a "short coming" in a mate...is the "thing" that YOU struggle with the most in YOUR OWN life!!! (Are YOU cheating? Or have YOU been TEMPTED to cheat?)
Be careful NOT to push YOUR OWN insecurities off on him...each of us come into a relationship with baggage...don't try to make him carry YOUR baggage!!!
Remember this too...for ANY relationship to be successful...you must have: 1. love 2. trust 3. respect
For yourself first....then your partner!
And you can't have ONE with out ALL THREE..they walk hand in hand!!!!
No history of cheating??? Then relax...it is just YOUR insecurities!!!
Find something to do to occupy your time better so you won't have so much time to dwell on it! Visit YOUR family..go shopping...get out and enjoy YOUR life with your female friends...do some "girlie" things that you haven't had time for while he is there!!! The time will pass more quickly ...you will be so much happier than sitting around worrying and moping...AND it will make your reunion( when he returns!) that much sweeter!!!
You are with him for some very good reasons...now trust him!!!
2006-12-27 10:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by photogram1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my family when you are visiting it is considered rude to spend time on the phone or the computer. With parents, they like your attention, they are from an older generation built around manners and such. Now, If he didn't call you at all I would be concerned, and if you can't call him then I would have alarms goin off in my head. It sounds so far there is not a reason to doubt, unless he has a history?
2006-12-27 10:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question just because he's not calling as much, then obviously there's not much trust there. I would ask if he has cheated in the past? If not, then relax and wait until you have a REAL reason to think something is happening.
2006-12-27 10:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by hotgramma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you can't know for sure. He could be just having a good time. Wait until he comes back. Then when he's not around, check his phone. Look at the calls he's made and the ones he's received. If it's an unfamiliar number or a woman's name, then I feel so bad for you. Don't worry too much though. Enjoy it while he's gone. :)
2006-12-27 10:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by Juno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is usually an excuse I am going to see my dad or mother etc. My boyfriend is in Miami FLorida and he hardly calls me. He said they went out until 3:00 am what am I to think. Yes they are cheating.
2006-12-27 10:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! He might just want to spend the quality time he is with his father. Just because he is not calling does not mean that he is cheating. He might be busy with his father or feels that he shouldnt be on the phone the whole time he is there since he is visiting
2006-12-27 10:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by sexy*kitty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look tootie I've had experience in the cheating department, so I highly doubt that he is cheating. HE could be like my boyfriend when I think he is cheating, he doesn't like to use a telephone or thinks I can't trust him. Or I'm having thoughts of all of my other boyfriends whom have cheated on me, while they were professing their undying love for me, and yeah it got real far for them.
2006-12-27 10:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by amazon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how your relationship is, but you can't accuse him of cheating because of your insecurities. If you love him that means you have to trust him until you are proven otherwise. If he breaks that trust then you have to make the decision to either stay with him or leave the bastard....I say leave the bastard because cheating once means he will cheat again!! good luck!
2006-12-27 10:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by tarheel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋