I am renting a very nice 1 Bedroom appartment, my BF of 1 year lives with me there. However I pay all the bills ( I already know so save it) on christmas eve he decided to invite his 2 sisters (15 & 18)to stay with us (I have no clue for how long I wasnt asked) so we ALL slept in our queen size bed ( just moved in not much furniture yet) no prob...so when I got home last night my appartment looked a hot a** mess, they just left everything everywhere, didn't pick up nothing after themselves, matter of fact I felt like they been there for month the way all of their belongings were scattered over my place especially the bathroom & then one of the three stole my neighbours ProActive, I of course packed it back up & am returning it after work! So I told my BF that he needs to talk to his sisters because I feel that they should respect my place & honor it since they are visiting. & then they didnt get home till like 3 a.m. & my BF wanted some sex & I said NO! Am I wrong for beeing mad?
2006-12-27 02:34:23 · 14 answers · asked by $D*Da*Spoild*1$ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No I can't be mean or just say how I feel freely because my boyfriend has a very bad temper....& please don't say I need to get rid of him this is all very hard for me. I know I asked for your opinion keep in mind when answering that at this point in my life I am dealing with a lot of stress from that family & I am trying to find a solution all on my own & it's very hard! you guys are a great back bone on here but in real life I am on my own.
2006-12-27 02:47:43 · update #1
You are not wrong for being mad. You and your bf should talk to his sisters together. If nothing changes, they should be asked to leave. If he is not willing to see that they are taking advantage, then he should be asked to leave also.
2006-12-27 02:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by hotgramma 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong for being upset. I know you said you already know it isn't right that you should pay all the bills while your BF freeloads, but if that's the case are you really surprised by his sisters' behavior? Sounds like disrespect and ungratefulness run in his family. If I were you, I'd kick all three of them out on the curb.
2006-12-27 10:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ur not wrong for being mad.. as for them stealing from your neighbor i would make them return it face to face.. embarass them a little for embarassing u... as for the mess they are teenagers and a mess is likely to happen but sit them down and tell them how it is.. tell them the place is too small for them to have their stuff all over so they need to pick up... as for the bf after his sisters leave tell him u were cool with his sisters coming to visit but he needs to give u a heads upso u can make plans for them that way they won't be bored.. as for him have a 15 and 18 year old out till 3 am i think ur bf needs to be talked to because i don't know many places that let teens in after oh say 11 or 12..
2006-12-27 10:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by ypsilady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed. He should respect your house and should insist that his sisters do the same. He should never have invited them to stay without asking you first and girls that age should not be out until 3 a.m. anyway. Sounds like a very dysfunctional family you have gotten into. Good luck, girl.
2006-12-27 10:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by justcurious 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no you are totally being taken advantage of...you need to stand up for yourself....tell your bf that your house isnt the local shelter and that you should have some if not all say in who and what comes in to your place....you pay the bills you need to lay down the rules cuz if you just sit back and let him walk all over you and let him invite ever tom, dick, or harry, (or in ur case sisters) in to your house then thats how it will always be
TELL HIM especially if its making you that uncomfortable
2006-12-27 10:40:53 · answer #5 · answered by Pretty Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a good point, he needs to check himself or you need to check his azz out of your life. If he thinks it's cool for people to trash your spot, and steal stuff then sweetheart you two are not a good match, you will alwways be mad if you stay with this clown trust. Make a clean break in 2007
2006-12-27 10:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be mad, but part of it is your own fault; you need to set boundries with your boyfriend and you need to send the sisters home NOW in order to do that.
2006-12-27 10:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not wrong for being mad he should have told them to keep up with there things and it is your house you pay the bill so you have say so in it .and it pissed you off so my boyfirend wouldnt gotten sex ethier that night
2006-12-27 10:40:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u r right. the least his sisters can do is respect u and ur place. he needs to talk 2 them so they can fix up. dnt worry girl ur right.
2006-12-27 10:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by me2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO I would have acted the same way. It sounds like he didn't car about your feelings. So, no I think you acted right.
2006-12-27 10:39:23 · answer #10 · answered by jenn.eric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋