i'm 20 years i dayed this guy fro 2 years in high school and had gotten engaged to him at 17 and married 19 but got divorced very recently. hes out of my life now and i met a new guy. i have been dating this new guy for 3 months now and i have heard a rumor from a friend hes going to ask me to marr him on valentines day. do you think thats too early?
2006-12-27 02:26:06 · 23 answers · asked by kittylove52686 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one can really make that call except you. You need to feel comfortable in your decision. If you are asking this question then I would have to guess that you are not. You could always accept and agree on a lengthy engagement to feel more comfortable about it. Good Luck in whatever you decide.
2006-12-27 02:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by Lt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SLOW DOWN! Enjoy being single for a while! You have your entire life to be married, why would you want to jump into another commitment so soon? On the other hand, I have a friend who got married on her 18th birthday to a guy she had dated only 7 months. (the first date being a 'blind date'!) They have been happily married for 15 years now, and that is what was right for her. I didn't get married until I was almost 26, and that was right for me. So, contrary to my first statement, only YOU know what is right for you. But don't just jump into it! SERIOUSLY think about it. Is this someone you could grow old with? Are you in love with *him*, or just the idea of being married? Go to some pre-marital counseling ~ sometimes questions come up that you might not think of on your own.
And good luck!
2006-12-27 10:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by shellbugger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were with your previous husband for 2 years before you got engaged and stood 2 yrs with him engaged and then a year after you married you get a divorce doesnt that mean you still had alot to learn. Not to compare but I dont think this situation would turn out much different than the first. Why not wait, he should understand.
2006-12-27 10:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by Secretlyfe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is extremely too early to get married. My advice is that you wait, at the very least, one year before you think (notice I said "think" and not "get engaged" or "get married") about marriage. You are also, however, too young to get married. You have an entire life ahead of you. You might want to date, enjoy being single, have fun, go to college and get your education, etc. and define who you are and make sure you are ready to have a long-term committed marriage. The way you worded it - "he's out of my life now and I met a new guy" - tells me that you aren't ready. It's much too soon.
2006-12-27 10:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by achristian520 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but when you get engaged you don't have to marry right away. Take your time. Get to know each other after the initial love craze ends. We all know things calm down after awhile and we start to learn more things about each other after a year or so that we were too busy "feeling" to notice. Engagement is a promise to marry later. Your young and you have nothing to lose. If you love each other enough to get engaged then you are planning long term anyway. Good luck!
2006-12-27 10:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You obviously think it is too early too. Otherwise you wouldn't be asking this question.
You are twenty years old and have a broken marriage behind you already. No harm in waiting a year or two. If the guy is the right one, he'll understand.
Good luck!
2006-12-27 10:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds a bit early but no one can tell you what to do. If you wants to say yes then say yes and you could have a long engagement. But its your life and only you can make decisions like that.
2006-12-27 10:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by jenn.eric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's moving pretty fast! Especially at your age! You will go through many changes in the next 5 years...why not find out who YOU really are first? I mean look at your avatar, it's a bit childish! You need to give yourself time to grow up and mature.
2006-12-27 10:28:57 · answer #8 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea i would agree? you first marriage didnt work out? ask your self why? marriage is a huge commitment and its suposed to be for life? After 3 months you cant possibly know all there is to know about each other. Whats the rush anyway? your so young still.
2006-12-27 10:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by DJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's too early. Give yourself time. don't rush into another one. If it's meant to be then it will happen at the right time when you're 100 percent positive about it and you don't have to post a question about it.
2006-12-27 10:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by nikkid6910705 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋