I'm 25 years old and very close with my family. I moved out of my parents' house when I was 19, but just moved back in a year ago. I live in the country in a quiet, boring little town...and I absolutely hate the cold weather!! I've always dreamed about living somewhere nice and warm near the ocean. Due to my recent quarter life crisis, guys, too much hard partying, alway depressed...I really feel like I need to find myself. I would love to move somewhere and start fresh, but I don't want to leave my family!! I can't imagine not having them there and not being able to be there for my 13 year old brother! I'm worried I'm going to kick myself forever if I don't go out and try to start a life of my own by the ocean!!
2006-12-27 02:18:18 · 19 answers · asked by geminiqtpie22 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
stay. u love your family. if u hate the cold weather, go for a short vacation. one usually thinks that what is somewhere far is better than what we have. learn to appreciate what you have then you will enjoy life more. yes, find a chance to go out there and try it out before you get old and regret but before you go be prepared. nothing is going to work your way if you just wish to good out there and be lucky
2006-12-27 02:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by jumbo_dumdum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself? Honey, wherever you go, you will "find" yourself. Running from the way you have been, or how you now are will not make you different. You will still be the same person.Try facing up to the things that are really bothering you and make changes that you can handle and follow through with, a little at a time. If you know you need your family, then that is one thing you can say you know for certain about yourself. Knowing you want to live near the ocean is another thing you know for certan about yourself. Perhaps you could take a vacation to the ocean to begin with to fulfill some of your longing.
It may be helpful to make a two column list. One column would be for listing the things you know for certan about yourself. The other column would be for the things you want out of life, or things you want to do with your life. Once you feel that you have filled your list in as fully as possible (which may take days,or even a week or two) Sit down and evaluate your list and be as honest and practical as you can. Looking at the things you know to be true about you, evaluate the things that you dream of and/or want from your life. Pursue the most reachable goals or dreams first. Then evaluate your list again and decide the feasability or benefit to be derived from other things you have listed. You may choose to eliminate or alter some of them to better suit your needs.
Do not worry about where you are presently living. It is a secure place to get things sorted out. It will not be cold out forever, and it will not always be lonely if you have a good friend or two.
2006-12-27 10:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by Dixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family comes first, especially if your 13 year old brother really needs you. At 25, you still have your whole life ahead of you! You won't be able to enjoy the sounds of the ocean if you are worried and missing your family. Prorities! The sandy beaches will be there for you when the right time comes.
2006-12-27 10:25:54 · answer #3 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go where your heart tells you to go. Your family will always be with you wherever you go. You can always contact them by phone or post. The fact that you are becoming upset about your life is normal. Most of us go through that stage of just becoming depressed. The most important thing you have to remember is that if you go, You are definitely not hurting anyone. As long as you follow your heart and see where it leads you, You will never regret anything. Who knows what might happen in the future? You will never know what is out there if you always feel afraid of leaving. Be brave and I know you are because by the sounds of it, you have been through a lot. I think you should take time to find yourself and I know you can do it. Your family will be there for you 100% Im sure and going away doesnt mean your abandoning them completely. It just means that you need sometime for yourself too. Its okay to be scared. Theres nothing wrong with being scared. Just remember to trust yourself and go with your instincts.
2006-12-27 10:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you think about trying one of the gap year programmes / short-term charity contracts that are on offer for young people? It gives you a chance to get experience in a job, and also to see if you really like living somewhere without having to commit yourself to anything for too long in case you don't like it. If you do like your job or the place you end up, you can usually find some way of staying there. And remember... planes, telephones and email are wondeful inventions, and mean that you're rarely out of touch with your family (if you don't want to be)!
2006-12-27 10:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by lechatdeluxe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take time to sit and think the different options open to you. Go through each of them and find the one that makes you the happiest (ie: by the ocean).
Once you find the "happiest" scenario put yourself realistic goals to reaching that scenario (looking for jobs in an area near the ocean, apartments).
Since you're trying to "find yourself" and don't really know what you want to do in life think about what you like to do. This is always the hardest thing to figure out when thinking about what we want to do as a career but once you figure out what you love to do you will know, because your eyes will water when you think of it.
Best of Luck
2006-12-27 10:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
quarter life crisis... i love it. mine has come a few years early! the love of my life having a baby with another woman. my best friend leaving for the army. another dead-end relationship. a man making me feel unappreciated. drowning my sorrows at the bar every night. depression. (that could be due to the fact that i live in indiana!) anyway, i had the opportunity to move out of a small country town in indiana when i was right out of high school and didnt take it. now, every day i kick myself. i am now hoping to move to north carolina in a year... beachside! this time i can tell you i won't pass it up.
2006-12-27 10:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by biz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way technology is today you wouldnt have to miss your family. there are webcams and video phone and cell phones to keep you close. I suggest trying to move away and make a fresh start for yourself. but dont get wrpped up into the party scene again, it is a bad infulence on your brother and not good for you. try tp live away for 6 months and if you still dont like it then move back. at least then you can say you tried it.
2006-12-27 10:23:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it takes money to live else where especially the ocean. You need to plan ahead before you jump right into being on your own. It is expensive to live by yourself.
2006-12-27 10:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start ur life again.
Move on.......
Parents always want 2 see there children happy. They will surely support u. As far as ur brother is considered U can hve quick visits 2 ur family.
Wish u luck!
2006-12-27 10:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋