My b/f cheated on me before about 2 years ago and when I found out he still continued to cheat on me with her. Then he finially stopped and now I just found out again that he has been texting her and they have been talking on the phone. He says that he didnt see her and he wasnt talking to her like that. She works at a temp agency and he is trying to get a job from them. So he tells me that he is talking to her just to get a job and just talking about how they have been. I dont know what to think. He knows I found out about them talking again he says he is done talking to her but like before I dont know if he is lying or not because he said he was done before but he didnt stop. So I dont know what to think I dont know if I should believe him or not. Do you think that he is still seeing her or do you think he is just trying to get a job. He siad before this happen again that he doesnt want to mess up again and that he wants to be with me so I dont know if he is lying again or not??
2006-12-27 02:15:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And might I add that we are getting married in november
2006-12-27 02:21:41 · update #1
I don't believe in the saying once a cheater always a cheater. If a person wants to change badly enough then they will put the effort forth to change. That being said if you can't trust your boyfriend then you should not marry him until you can.
The two of you need to talk, an open honest uninterupted discusion. You need to tell him how you feel, don't hold back, tell him what his lies have done to you. Listen to him and what he has to say.
He also needs to understand that he can't have contact with this woman. Period, none at all. If he wants a job he's just going to have to get the old fasioned way, tell him to hand out resumes!
If you love him and you believe that he loves you then lay out some ground rules. He has some trust to earn back and if he really loves you he will understand that.
Look deep in to your heart for the answers, you will find them. What ever you do don't rush in to marriage. Work through this first and then look at marriage. You will have a much stronger relationship then. Good luck! Be strong and Firm.
2006-12-27 02:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by Cannuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of places out there to get a job and because the ex works at one particular temp agency is a good reason for him NOT to apply there, so it he would have no reason for her to be in his life again if he has committed to being with you, especially if he cheated on you before with her and you forgave him. He wouldn't have opened that door to her again if the respected you.
If he was on the up and up, he would have asked your feeling about the matter before applying to the agency where she worked, or if he didn't know and just ran into her there, he would told you right way.
Personally, I would terminate the relationship now as he had cheated with her before and went behind my back and was contacting her again. When I was involved with a pathological liar, I didn't like the insecure, cynical, demanding, angry person I turned into to try to cope with the situation and it tainted and tarnished every aspect of my life. Is he really worth it to you?
If you and he really wants to make a go of it, he needs to cut off all contact with her and eliminate that temp place as a potential employer so he would have no reason to remain in contact.
2006-12-27 02:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the old saying goes once a cheater always a cheater. He is lying why does he need to talk to her to get a job. I thought you had to talk to someone in Human Resources to get a job. I would move on and leave the looser. He will never change.
2006-12-27 02:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by red1967 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If you cannot have trust, you have nothing and once a cheater, always a cheater! You deserve better, Good Luck.
2006-12-27 02:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know this might be hard to hear...but once a cheater always a cheater...i`d talk to him about it && if he says anything like i can`t believe you don`t trust me...tell him he doesn`t deserve trust from me && you cheated on me once before with her so why should i believe you now...
2006-12-27 02:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by xxgoincrazy313xx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to dust him off..he'll never quit cheating..Its likea dog that has gotten a taste for blood..he'll keep going back for more..especially if you aren't going to show him you have enough backbone to tell him to bugger off.. FOR GOOD also, no temporary seperation stuff..he needs to made an example of
2006-12-27 02:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting a job...........maybe a b!0w job. He's back in it again. And he loves the fact that you are totally clueless. Hope he doesn't bring you an STD home for the holidays.
2006-12-27 02:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by CuriousMishawaka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Falcour the success dragon.. Atreyu is the lads call peoples.. lol. i imagine that is time to make a visit to Blockbuster with $a million.10 and employ it to sweep up! that is a classic anyhow! Lol. good success!
2016-12-01 05:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. Once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-12-27 02:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by Biker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋