Things did click into place and then for some reason in the space of three months it all went sour and now its over with. My question is what if it was meant to be and it all clicked into place, but just a change of heart on one side ended it why couldnt that click into plalce also? Ive never had ANY other relationship like that and i doubt i will ever again. I've been in a lot on long term ones and we always had to work to get over petty problems. When it was over with the others i was hurt you know, and eventually got over them and realized it wasnt meant to be. But not this one. I knew because of my experience that it was as perfect as anything until she stopped caring at all. How can one person know it's perfect, but the other not even see it? She is young, probably too young with barely any relationship experience.
2006-12-27 02:10:44 · 5 answers · asked by virgil_fre_wld 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my bad should have specified. We were together for a year and she is 18, i am 21. Her first love, my second.
2006-12-27 02:39:38 · update #1
It could be that she is too young to know whats out there for her or maybe it just wasn't the right time for her. She probably wasn't ready for that long term committment. You felt that the two of you should be together and you just might be. You see, not only do things happen the Way they should, they happen When they should, and it just wasn't the right time. She might very well be the girl of your dreams, your soulmate but just isn't meant to happen now. Don't give up on it, keep your life going and either her or whoever will come to you when they should.
2006-12-27 02:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Steve S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you "clicked" in the begining and then 3 months later everything fell apart that means you probably didn't click with the real her. Sometimes people feel a need to pretend to be someone they are not to make a relationship work. Specifically if they are young with little relationship experience. The problem with that is no one can keep up the act for long. Eventually (within 3-6 months) you will begin to see the real them and things fall apart or they get tired of pretending and things fall apart. It will always fall apart if people aren't honest about who they are.
Also some people fall in lust, not love. When you fall in lust everything is perfect because you refuse to look for flaws. The problem with falling in lust is that it is fleeting. There is nothing wrong with falling in lust you just have to recognize it for what it is. Falling in lust is part of falling in love, but when you really fall in love you build a friendship as well as a romance that will carry on as the lusts fade.
When you are in lust you think your partner has no flaws, when you are in love you care for them despite them.
2006-12-27 02:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by WriterChic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two, not one. Move on.
2006-12-27 02:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by walkietalkieray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's young then why are you dating her?
2006-12-27 02:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me.....it will happen for you again...good luck
2006-12-27 02:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋