Shallow guys?

Question

I was talking to a really good friend of mine last night. She continuously gets rejected by guys. She is not the smallest person in the world, but her attitude and personality more than makes up for any physical flaws she has, well, in my opinion anyway.

Last night I felt so horrible for her when she said "Ya know, no matter how I try to look at myself and all this rejection...when it all boils down to it, I am just a little girl in this world, who wants a boy to like her."

I guess I can understand that guys like to have 'arm-candy' to show other guys what they can get as far as a woman is concerned. But, I guess I DON'T understand why guys can be so shallow they are willing to pass up good women because she's not 'a barbie' - then complain that good women are hard to find.

Guys, do you have any input to share with us women about this subject?

wolfman - show me differently and I'll ask different questions.

Answer 1

i think if your friend is worried about men who reject her then that means she just hasn't found the right one to accept her for who she is.it will happen and then one will look at her and see her heart above it all.in the meantime have confidence and tell her to stop worrying whether you she is as good as others and feel your best for that one that is in search of the same thing.

Answer 2

It goes both ways. Men just like women are looking for eye candy. I know lots of guys who get rejected day after day by women because they are not hot looking. Keep looking is all you can tell your friend. Don't lower your standards, and remember tomorrow could be the day you find a smart man who knows that a good woman's is more than eye candy.

Answer 3

Hey, same thing goes for some of us guys. Girls can be shallow as well...I've had many guy friends who couldn't find a girl that wouldn't even give them the time of day because of the way they looked...but you know, tell your friend that:

The way she looks may filter out a lot of the guys who are looking to play someone, because all they are looking for is a pretty girl to do it with. Let's say that her "playing field" is smaller than others, BUT that way she will find someone true and sincere who will want to be with her for herself and not her looks. Hot women go through a bunch of guys and eventually find "the one" after mistaking many other guys as "the one." Technically, more hurt can come out of this lifestyle. You friend will find the one person who she is meant to be with. You cannot search for love, but love comes to you in the most unexpected ways. When she is not looking, she will stumble upon the right person (and she might not even know it). Trust me, happened to me very unexpectedly...and I am not the most attractive person around.

Answer 4

when a person doesn't have that perfect barbie physique, they have to make up for it in other areas including character, personality, confidence... it takes more than just looks to turn a guy on.

now these guys that she's getting rejections from... what if they're just the wrong kind of guys? if these guys she's attracted to ARE shallow, she doesn't want to waste her time with them anyway. if there is any message to give her, i'd say:

be patient and don't beat yourself up over this. build up your confidence, love yourself and be the best you that you can be. there is no other you.

Answer 5

Some guys like to have a prety woman just for show off purpose, they dont care about love of relations its a matter of show, others are following some dream or fantasy and some just want to score they don't even bother talking with women that dont match their needs.

Answer 6

That stinks! alot of guy just want a good looking girl and nothing more and in my opinion that is so stupid. Everyone should be judged by their personality not their looks but all i have to say is that your friend should keep going and not give up one day she will probably find the right guy for her! Best of Luck!

Answer 7

have you ever seen shallow hal? thats how about 80% of guys think.... we are a very shallow people, mostly because of our upbringing with sex everywhere you go.... im just saying there is someone out there for her, but she may have to hang out in some new circles, make some friends with people she never thought in a million years she would be friends with. There are guys out there that feel the same way :) dont loose the faith :)

Answer 8

a lot of guys go for looks first.not all.look,guys thing about sex every 2 seconds or something,right? thats what they are thinking about with the woman,the sex.not getting along,laughing,loving,cuddling,smiling and having a good time,thats what you are thinking about. your freind will meet people to love her,they will probably be freinds that know her for her,or work buddies,people that are forced to learn more about a person because of school or work.you are talking about numbers here babe,so she might not find someone right away,but she will,just tell her to be positive and available(dont live in a cave)

Answer 9

same right here guy. i'd like a woman who's into a similar track as me (punk) i've got not had a woman buddy in the longest time. when I say punk i do no longer advise green day or that stuff. you at the instant are not on my own do no longer difficulty bro

Answer 10

A lot can be said for physical attraction. But that notwithstanding, it could be that she just wants affection so bad she comes off way too strong....needy even. If she is having constant bad luck, tell her to back off altogether. If she stops being in the hunt, she may be surprised that the hunt could totally come to her. Of course this is not likely to happen overnight, but it can happen.