Recently a guy told me that his girlfriend called and told him that she needed $35 every two weeks to get her hair done. He thought that it was an unfair request because they did not start off their relationship like this..so why should it change.. One girl said that in any relationship she's in she expects the man to pay for something if he expects to Sleep with her. Hair, nails, a phone bill or something. She said if he didn't she could always find a suga daddy who would with no problem. She also told this guy that his girlfriend probably already had another guy lined up who would do these things for her, she was just giving him an ultimatum. Either give her the cash or she's gone. So I commented that aside from paying for dates, I have never had a boyfriend pay for anything for me. I have never asked or had a man offer to pay any of my bills, or get my hair done. All the females in the room looked at me like I was nuts? Should I be demanding these things too?
2006-12-27 01:58:28 · 47 answers · asked by BlackNailArt S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Suddenly I feel very stupid---..I use to think sex was a fair exchange. But apparently not. All these women are getting extra's for giving up the goods. I do have friends like this...they have men paying all their bills, sometimes even rent. Sometimes I get a bit jealous. Maybe, I'm not cute enough to get all the extra's?? LOL...
2006-12-27 02:04:25 · update #1
If you demand to have something paid for in return for a sexual service then you are a whore. Any other word for it is just sophistry. A true relationship is not based on how big of a bank account or credit line someone has; but rather on love, friendship, mutual affection, and understanding. How can one expect to achieve these things if one holds out their hand like a cashier, expecting payment for every little thing? I wish you luck in finding a true relationship, and enlightenment on others that think it is based on money.
2006-12-27 02:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by P M 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The answer is "no". You should not be demanding or expecting your boyfriend to pay for anything, especially not a monthly bill of $35 for nails and hair. The two of you are not married so there is no financial tie between the two of you. As a boyfriend, he is just that - a boyfriend. He's not the husband and, no, if he refuses to pay that does not mean he does not love you. It just means he is smart and doesn't want to get financially stuck in a situation with a girlfriend who, lets face it, may or may not last depending upon who they are and how things work out. The finances should never come into play when you are just dating. Even if you are a fiance, it should not come into play. Finances should only take place when you are married. For one main reason, money can split two people up faster than just about anything so the last thing you want to do is bring money inbetween two people. I also want to add that a boyfriend and girlfriend should also NEVER sign any contracts together - ever! You should watch more of the judge TV shows. Many of their cases are ones where a boyfriend or girlfriend "loaned" (they always say "loaned" instead of "gave") their ex-loved one money and now they want to be repaid. Don't do it. Just keep the money out of the relationship until the marriage.
2006-12-27 02:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by achristian520 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Haha, I am just like you. I would never request such things from my boyfriend.. Maybe that's why my hubby married me! I work full time and so does he. We have a baby girl who is a year old and we are very happy together. I know if I wanted to, I could probably have a part time job and we could make it, but I take pride in being a strong woman that can hold my own if I ever needed to. I like having clothes, and a car that I can call my own and know that I worked hard for what I have. And if anything ever happens down the road where for some reason I would need to take care of my daughter by myself, I have piece of mind knowing that I could, even though it would be difficult. Don't worry about the other girls! Do what makes you happy!
2006-12-27 02:04:40 · answer #3 · answered by tmac 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What an awful situation for both parties: the man in the relationship is basically primed to think that in order to get love he has to pay for it. The woman stoops to basically selling her body to the highest bidder. I'm sorry but I just can't think of any other way to look at it. I don't know any woman that does this, to be perfectly honest with you. I don't know if it's some sort of a cultural difference or what; I don't know what part of the country you live in. I would never demand a bill to be paid; it's just rude and selfish. She's got arms, legs and a brain. She needs to work for her money and not just by laying on her back and spreading her legs. I'm actually disgusted right now.
2006-12-27 03:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is indeed matter of concern and I am sorry you are undergoing a tremendous mental agony for your mom's unplanned expenses system. The best way to sit all the members and disclose openly total borrow and liabilities and expected income for next 10 weeks also the expected income or arrangements of funds and the urgent and unavoidable liabilities are to be cleared. Also derive the planning how to pay off balance.Finally they had to make a budget for every month to find out the deficit. In case it is not agree by Your mom, you can not help then forget if you can.
2016-03-13 22:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not be demanding these things because that will turn your man against you. If he wants to get your hair and nails done let him do it on his own free will. I have never asked my boyfriend to get my hair or nails done so me and you are in the same situation but he asks me and I say no. He has gotten them done about seven times in 2 years so i just don't ask him i am satisfied.
2006-12-27 02:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by Allegra W 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not if you want a good dude, I guess if a dude feels like he's paying, that sorta gives him permission to pay for some other chicks too, I would say, the more any relationship you have is based on your feelings, and Interest in one another the better things are, but if we are going to put a price on your body, won't be long before he's looking for an upgrade.
2006-12-27 02:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by cunby75 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No....! UNLESS you want to become one of these money digging hooches! That is how woman get the bad name, because there are woman out there that expect too much! As a woman, there are times that I offer to take my boyfriend out. There is nothing set in stone that a man should pay for anything. Here's my advice, if you want to demand for something, demand that he treats you like a lady, demand that he open the door once in a while, demand for respect.
2006-12-27 02:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by Kimberly K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Money And Nails
2016-11-12 07:49:29 · answer #9 · answered by kroell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont' think so. I never demanded any cash from any boyfriend. I think it's akin to prostitution to expect a man to pay you because he sleeps with you, whether it's a utility bill or nails. Unless he lives with you, then the cost of the utilities should be shared.
2006-12-27 02:02:20 · answer #10 · answered by workingclasshero 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋