Everytime I come home to visit my family I either get upset about something or I'm arguing with them, there is no happy medium. My sister has some type of undiagnosed mood disorder and fights with every member of my family non-stop. When I'm here my mom will find a way to blame me for things my sister does. Then, I'll call my dad crying and saying that I can't wait to go home and my mom will then start telling me things like no one wants you here, please go home! Ironically enough, she is always the one begging for me to come and visit. What should I do?
2006-12-27 01:56:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ur situation is not good. Talk 2 ur family freely.
2006-12-27 03:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends on your age. If you are younger (teenager and down) than maybe you just need to stop visiting your mom for a while (i am assuming your parents are divorced.) If she wants to see you she can come to you, or just plan shorter trips around when your sister is not there.
If you are older than I think it is time to have a talk with your parents about the kind of relationship you want to have with them and your family.
Everyone has someone in their family that can drive them up the wall. Just remember they are still your family despite the fact that you sometimes wish you were adopted!!! LOL
2006-12-27 10:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by puggylover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to let it bother you. Some people aren't comfortable with themselves unless they are ragging on someone else. You are only thee for a short while and just keep in mind that you will leave shortly and not have to deal with it. They probably just wish you were around more. When you leave send a nice letter/email telling them you enjoyed your visit.
Trust me if your sister truly has a medical issue with her moods, you won't win any argument in that house. Remember that she is ill and though she may not mean to (deep deep down) on the surface she can't help it. When there is an imbalance mentally it is an extremely hard thing to try and control.
Try to enjoy your time with them.
2006-12-27 10:04:42 · answer #3 · answered by luvlyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to talk to your mom and tell her what she is doing or how she is making you feel. Maybe she is so concerned or overwhelmed with your sister, she doesn't stop to see what it is doing to you. If this doesn't work, as hard as it may be, I would just stay away for a while until things settle down. Than maybe your mother would see that it isn't you that is causing ALL the problems.
2006-12-27 10:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by TGG 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried sitting down with them and discussing these issuses? If you have or if you do try and it still doesn't work out, then maybe it's time to stop going to visit. Maybe just phone calls or just a short visit will do. Once they see they might lose you and what life is like without your visits they may change thier attitude.
2006-12-27 10:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your sister has bipolar disorder, and you need to tell your mother how you feel , the next time you go over.Establish some guidelines and rules for when you are there and make sure you let your feeling be known.If need be have your Dad speak with your Mom about her behavior toward you. You shouldn't have to made to feel bad everytime you go over there, its their issue not yours. Keep your head up (smile).
2006-12-27 10:05:56 · answer #6 · answered by Priscilla B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel when it comes to a screwed-up family. I guess I would bite the bullet next year and stay away. I know it will be hard and hurt. but i would let them know I love you all, but for once if you all want to fuss, I wont be here . Maybe someone will realize whats going on. Good Luck.
2006-12-27 10:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by tracy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray and stay away that the best thing to do for now because I feel what you are going though. My mother blame me all the time so I just stay away.I have a peace of mind this way.
2006-12-27 10:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by LEGGS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay home with Dad for a while, until Mum and your sister have time to...Grow UP !!....(Don't take on any guilt and be the best person you can be without their tamtrums interferring)...good luck and Happy New Year..
2006-12-27 10:01:49 · answer #9 · answered by ozzy chik... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im not an expert... and I believe u should keep visiting them, but dont stay long there!! visit them once amonth or 2... i mean make ur visits less than u already do... they'll miss u more and they'll like it more when u visit them so they won't upset u!
2006-12-27 10:00:49 · answer #10 · answered by Leah 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋