Me and my ex broke up coz he still had feeling for his ex.
He said he needed some time and space.
I really care about him and want to wait for him, but im not sure how long to wait.
Help!!!
2006-12-27 01:44:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no one can answer u this question
he needs time and u need time too to think about all this
maybe he should get back to his ex and u should start something new in ur life
time will show and there is no time plan , u will see when the time is right
2006-12-27 02:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through exactly the same thing at the moment. My 'man' told me there is an ex that he is waiting for a decision from. God its devastating, i know. It makes you want to cling to them and prove that you are worth hanging onto. But, i have learned, over the last week, that i am better than that. Xmas was really tough, lonely and sad. But i surrounded myself with my friends. Talk to them about it. It'll make them feel closer to you, and you'll feel better knowing people do care. As for the ex boyfriend, unfortunately space and time in a mans mind does mean lay off, and leave me alone. I know it hurts, and its the worst thing to have people say time is a great healer, but it is. If he wants time and space, let him have it. But be assured that he cannot just forget you quickly. Things will remind him of you. If its meant to be, it will be. If not, there is someone out there waiting to give you all you deserve and need. Just keep your head up, go out with friends and smile. After the new year, things will start to look a little better. Good luck!
2006-12-27 02:43:17 · answer #2 · answered by beckietuck 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Solution is tough but clear.
You can only wait for as long as you are willing. What you need to do, if you want to wait, is wait. But don't completely count other guys out.
If someone comes along that sparks your interest, and buddy still hasn't come around and said he's ready to try a relationship with you, move on to the next guy. He made the choice, not you, and you're not betraying him by moving on, though it may feel like it.
It's a tough situation, but you can get through it.
2006-12-27 01:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Alberta Sunrise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes all break ups are bad and stressful! but things change. i understand how ur ex boyfriend feels and its good that uv let him have same space too because he probly still loves her and doesnt want to hurt u in the process! i think if u do really love him u should wait for him but then at the same time u might be waiting for a very long time! just remember ur heart isnt always right!
i hope things go well xxx
2006-12-27 04:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by Erin R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think that if you care about someone to see them happy makes you happy even if it means that person not being with you. You can only wait but so long and there isnt a time frame you can put on your feelings for him. Now the question is how long will you have to wait?....Until he is ready, it takes 2, so take into account your own feelings as well.
2006-12-27 01:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by Secretlyfe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through exactly the same thing after splitting with my ex of 9 years . although i had a girlfriend i loved so so much i couldn't stop thinking about my ex and i took its toll on our relationship as she dumped me on Xmas eve . I think it will be that if he finished with her he is wondering if she is alright . you cant just stop caring for someone even if its an ex . its not easy as you will be so confused . your boyfriend will be as well but i know that he will love you . I'm me if you want to chat on yahoo
2006-12-27 01:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by bob a builder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will still have feelings for him as they don't go away that easily. You need to try and move on and forget about him, there are plenty of other men out there, don't sit around waiting for him to come to you, show him you have moved on.
2006-12-27 03:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by emmalp75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have just been dumped by my bf we were together for 4 years. I love him very much and just want him to be happy even if its not with me. It will be hard for you but Iam sure if its ment to be it will be.hope it all works out for you.x
p.s dont spend to long waiting you only have one shot at life so i suggest live it.....
2006-12-31 01:52:14 · answer #8 · answered by mandaloo_mandi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just thinks the grass is greener on the other side.
Stay in control start having fun, wear make up and give yourself a boost.
There is a reason that she is his ex.
Don't be anyones reserve girlfriend.
2006-12-27 02:13:32 · answer #9 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he feels that way then he's going to try and get back with the one he feels that he needs to be with i say ask him if he's planning on coming back to you so that you can know what to do when someone says it's they need space it really means it's over but in a nice way
2006-12-27 01:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋