For the past month or so my ex and i have been planning on getting married and starting a family. we havent made a officiall reunion because we stay in different states. we have been together off and on for the past four and a half years and i love him a lot but there is a lot of hurt and pain in our past and a lot of times i don't feel like i am the person to make him happy although he says that i am. plus i am in college and i am not leaving home until i graduate in about 3 years and we both want to move to another state once we are married but he wants to do it sooner than i graduate. but there is this other guy that i am just crazy about that i could also see myself spending the rest of my life with and would like to get to know him better. he somewhat knows how if feel about him but he doesnt know completely and i have no idea if he feels anything for me beside friendship and the occasional romp in the bed.
i don't know what to do. help.
2006-12-27 01:36:47 · 9 answers · asked by PreciousLady 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am 23. my ex says that he is proud of me for getting back in school and he supports that but im not sure if waiting until i graduate to be with me is something that he is willing to do.
2006-12-27 02:01:26 · update #1
Well it sounds to me like the ex is a habit that is hard to break and its hard to forget the things you had and you keep feeling them, but they may be no longer there. I think you should give the new guy a chance as you are young. The ex doesn't sound like he has what is best for you at heart.
2006-12-27 01:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by dana j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one thing is you sound a bit young to be making this kind of decision, and if you ex is your ex obviously there was something going on in that relationship to make you split correct? If he wants to marry you now and not wait for you to finish school FORGET him, he does not have your best interest at heart and sometimes we think its love and it is really just a comfortable situation. If you are having second thoughts about him then go with your thoughts because the only person who will be honest and truthful with you is yourself, trust yourself, you have no reason to lie. Get that education and mature some and I guarantee you will feel differently about things.
2006-12-27 09:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by Marty M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you just concentrate on college - boys/men will come and go, but you have an opportunity to improve your future. Don't let relationships get in the way of your education.
2006-12-27 09:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by tampico 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, what you're saying is that your engaged to a loser in another state, but screwing a guy at your college. Hmmmm.......I'd say break the engagement, screw a few more guys from your college, and enjoy life.
2006-12-27 09:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by CuriousMishawaka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its obviously not time for you to get married. sew your oats(thats what your doing now), wait until school is not an issue,and everything will fall into place,just do whatever you want everyday,live life to the fullest,get some,peace out.
2006-12-27 09:42:12 · answer #5 · answered by i tell it like it is 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of COURSE you know what to do... wait until you graduate college and establish yourself as a successful career woman before getting serious with any more men.
2006-12-27 09:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't love one of them, so figure out which one that is
2006-12-27 09:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
think of ua education first n wat it will grant u then. neither of the bulls will grant u wat eduation can.though u tend to imagine u have them holding u down,u have ua life to live!!!!!!!!!!!!!
MAKE A CHOICE; THE BULLS(one of em that is) OR YOUR FUTURE BASED ON UA EDUCATION!
2006-12-27 09:47:45 · answer #8 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just a guess... one must be love and second must be infactuation... think ... analyze.... and take decision
2006-12-27 09:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by pali@yahoo.com 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋