What are some ways that you can help you keep your mind off of someone that you love?

Question

Especially when you are at work and have nothing else to do.

Answer 1

It is completely normal and healthy to miss and think about your loved one so much that it hurts. In many cases, that's how you know you are in love. The good days wouldn't mean much without the bad. You need a little separation to keep the relationship healthy so you remember how lucky you are for what you have. There is a saying that goes something like this - a rich man rarely realizes how rich he is but a poor man is very rich and aware of his riches when they come. In other words, if you two were together all the time, and there was never any separation anxiety to deal with, then you would forget what a great thing you have together and would probably start to find other ways to spice up your life. Now, I will assume that you are simply separated from your loved one for a short time such as during the holidays or something. I will not assume that your loved one left you or anything. So, if it's just a simple separation anxiety then, there are so many ways to keep yourself busy so you don't get depressed.

1. Find a friend. Take a book to Starbucks, get a coffee or tea, and you might meet a new friend there.
2. Find someone to email. Email your loved one. If they are gone or away from home but have access to a computer then they should be willing and wanting to email as much as you.
3. Go to a club or restaurant with a friend.
4. Go to the movies. Check out a new release film.
5. Take a drive and check out the parks, zoo, etc.
6. Write letters to your loved one.
7. Video games. Especially online role playing games like World of Warcraft, which is fantastic.
8. Go to the local mall.
9. Take up a hobby that you enjoy. Build your own web site. Buy a new digital camera and try photography. Etc...
10. Join a class at the local college that you enjoy, such as learning how to draw, paint, cook, etc.

Do you need more? There are sporting events, your job, visit the family, go to Church, etc. There are many ways to keep yourself busy. The key is to keep your mind occupied so you don't have to think about it. I would suggest reading a book but that puts you in a quiet and lonely place with your thoughts churning a mile a minute so that may not help you get your mind off of your loved one. In fact, it may make it worse. So, you need to stay occupied. Keep busy. Here's another idea. Think of something really sweet and wonderful that you could do to surprise your loved one when they return (e.g., clean the house, fix the broken appliances in the house, buy some new stuff, organize a welcome back party, etc.). Then, time will fly by so fast that soon you will be with your loved one again. Just remember that it doesn't help you to think about being miserable and depressed. The more you think about being unhappy and sad, the more sad and unhappy you will be. We can talk and think ourselves into things very fast. So, keep yourself happy and know that your loved one will be back. If they are not coming back, then I recommend singles groups, church activities, and other similar activities to help you. Church always helps.

Answer 2

Play a game that challenges your mind.
My bf keeps me on an emotional high, I often times can't stop thinking about him especially after we go out etc and usually to help calm my nerves I have a glass of red wine and then I do something intense but since you're at work, playing a game would help

Answer 3

Awwww.... that is so sweet. The best thing you can do is keep yourself busy. Find some work to do. Volunteer to do more if you do not have enough to do, which will make you look good in addition to distracting you. If it is not interfering with you getting stuff done, however, there is nothing wrong with taking some time to daydream. ;-)

Answer 4

Well, stop thinking about them! If I said "stop thinking of a white horse"...and then asked you again to stop thinking of that white horse...do you think you'd be able to get the white horse out of your mind? No. So find a distraction and focus on that. Your obsession with this guy shouldn't affect your everyday thoughts!

Answer 5

I know thats so hard, especially when you get butterflies in your stomach. Try to look up movies or up coming movies. Books that you are interested in. Celebrity gossip, sporting events, concerts, whatever your hobby might be.

Answer 6

Concentrate more on your work, hang out with friends. If your not involved with this person, date other people. If you are involved, remember your priorities. You can't allow someone to consume you like that.

Answer 7

This is normal, however, if you are finding yourself being obsessive and only able to think of him. You may need some counseling. However, it may just be a very normal endearing type of thinking. Only you can make this determination. God bless****

Answer 8

Hit your thumb with a hammer. Believe me, it will take your mind off him every time.

Answer 9

i agree with reading, play on the computer, write a letter to a family member, etc..

Answer 10

Play games on yahoo.