ok well i tried to ask this yesterday but it wouldnt let me so im tryin again. my step-mother is a total b.. and she has always been a b.. she uses my father and almost everyone else she comes in contact with. she used to make me clean her house then babysit her 2 kids (my half sisters) a few years ago i had to wear clothes that were pissed on by a cat because she was to lasy to train her cat! so overal i just wanted to know if this was normal.
2006-12-27 01:26:57 · 11 answers · asked by Tay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok well 1st i dont live there cuz of this ****! as for u ppl tellin me to wash my clothes cuz of the cat piss keep in mind i was like 7 and not aloud to even take a shower!!! she has been a b.. for a stepmother since i was a year old! cuz she and my dad got married i never really got to have a father growing up! he had to spend all his time on her kids so i was tossed aside. and ik about chores but not cleanin after her, her kids, and her pets while she sits her fat butt on the couch and watches TV. every single day! that to me dont seem right! then each night and most days having to watch 2 kids! that started when i was about 6 and the cleanin house every day i was too little to even remember not being forced to clean! so is this really normal? i mean ik kids have chores and older kids watch younger kids now and then but havin to do this everyday all day, is it really normal?
2006-12-28 02:45:42 · update #1
It depends on if you are an adult or not. Yes there are people out there who rely on other individuals and they tend to take advantage of their goodwill.
There really isn't enough information to know if this particular woman is more than difficult than normal. It is normal to have personality differences and views on situations and that makes it difficult!
If you were a minor and you lived there, being expected to help with house chores is normal. Being a big sister and watching your little sisters from time to time is normal.
If you were old enough to use the washer and dryer, why didn't you wash the clothes that the cat peed on? That isn't so normal. Many times when a cat pees there may be other health issues going on, not always because "someone is too lazy to train their cat".
There isn't enough information to determine how much is normal and what isn't. If you are an adult and she continues to use you, don't allow her to. But it's wonderful to offer to watch your little sisters from time to time.
2006-12-27 01:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...lots of built up stuff.
Yahoo Q/A posters are all old enough to dress ourselves and decide what is clean or dirty ;)
Bit of past experience with cats: Cats sometimes mark territory especially if anyone in the family has gone outside the home and has come in with the scent of what they feel is an invader. Cats can also pick up scent if another cat is lurking on the outside of the home and will spray the home nasty smell isn't it? Also cats will do this if they do not feel well. The family cat if you still have it....you mentioned something about "a few years ago" and your concerns should have been brought up back then concerning the cat. If kitty is still an issue it shouldn't be a problem for you to be the first to start the conversation IMO.....what do you think?
We all have chores to do....including me and I'm an adult and I would I would bet the same goes for any poster on here.
Babysitting...have to share. I resented the same exact thing at your age and all I really needed to do was look at it differently. LOL I was actually getting hands-on FREE education for my future mother role. Any of my girlfriends that didn't babysit had to ask other people what to do and buy books which isn't too bad but I got to use my time on other things when I became a mother.
So, IMO try to get to know step-mom a bit and try to stay clear of dad and step-moms relationship between them. I know most don't intentionally mean to be starting wars we just want to be understood. You take care :D
2006-12-27 02:07:50 · answer #2 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not every stepmother is a b. Most are nice women. Being a stepparent is really hard, and you get no respect. Like nearly everyone else stated, helping around the house is part of living in and being a part of that household. As for the cat thing, how would the cat have gotten to your clothes...were they not put away? And were these the only clothes you had to wear?
2006-12-27 02:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear this. There are often problems with step mums and siblings of a new relationship. I have a step mum, although I left home several years ago. She has cats and can be manipulative, to the point that she drove a rift between my father and I. I don't really know what to say to make you feel better. I suspect you are young, just try and stick in at school thus putting yourself in a good position for your adult life and eventual independence.
2006-12-27 01:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are in a very hard situation, the good thing is you will grow up fast and its cool you are clearly more mature than your own stepmom, If your dad lets this woman act like this its not cool you are your dads responsibility he should be the only one telling you what to do depending on how long she has been your mom if its just a couple years then she needs to back off. Keep your head up and get good grades cause you want to move out with a roommate ASAP and keep a good job. Make sure to try and atleast get your associates degree after school
2006-12-27 01:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think anything but the cat thing could be taken as bad on her part. Kids just want to blame adults. There is nothing wrong with you helping around the house and even watching your siblings if you are of age to do that. Life isn't a cake walk for anyone and step moms get a raw deal, but they aren't all bad. but all kids test their limits.
2006-12-27 01:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by dana j 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
eh if your profle pic is the same as u look as in real life then yeah your stepmom can do whatever she wants. As for the cat story I am sure u are leaving some stuff out and u could have wasted a dollar to have the clothes washed.
2006-12-27 01:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by RT 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, some step moms are just wonderful people. They were wonderful before they were steps moms and then the were great stepmoms. Once a b___ch always a b__ch, doesn't matter if she's a step mom or not. She must have some appeal, she hooked your Dad. Best thing to do it find someway to get along w/ her and find some level to relate to her on.
2006-12-27 01:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by workingclasshero 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes and no...your step-mom might have two faces. She might be nice to guests on one side but on the other, she's not so nice to family or w/e. I know you and believe that your step-mom is a b****. So in your case...yeah step-moms are normally b****.
2006-12-29 02:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by shawnkiddo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's common to feel the way you do about your step-mother. It's hard for just about everyone. Everyone is having to change their rountine.
2006-12-27 01:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by Smittie 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋