Duty at a very short notice. I couldn't handle a jing - bang of 15 adults on my own. Result none of my in - laws called and wished my daughter and me for for Christmas. My ma -in - law called my hubby on his mobile. How do I handle them when I meet them again ?
2006-12-27 01:19:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I had them over last X'mas too . No one helped out . They all sat ordering around . Even the table was laid and cleared by me. Don't talk about the dishes.
2006-12-27 01:28:04 · update #1
Why would you WANT to meet them again?
2006-12-27 01:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i'd e book a inn room. Then i'd tell my husband the two she continues to be there or I do. and that i'd do it too! If he did no longer make her stay in the inn, i'd go rapidly there when I left the wellbeing midsection and stay till the MIL is out of my abode, which extra constructive be below some million hour or i'd be leaving my husband for stable. heavily. positioned your foot down. whilst he has a toddler with you, YOU replace into the main intense mom in his existence, era.
2016-12-15 09:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can certainly understand you feeling overwhelmed but I'm certain you would have had help considering the circumstances. Not to make you feel any worse but most people get a little p.o.'d when big social events are called off at the very last minute!! Don't worry about it though. There's always next year.
2006-12-27 01:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by Suzanne S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They could have had the gathering at their house but you clearly have been nominated as family doormat...
They sound selfish and childish...calling him on his cell, that is ridiculous. I wouldn't do or say anything to them, be thankful that you can ignore them for a while...
They owe you an apology and if you let this pass without getting one, you will always be the door mat.....what they did was unacceptable, their hearts should have gone out to you...completely rude and unacceptable....stick to your guns... good luck with the monster in laws...hubby should let them know that it was unacceptable......good luck to you, sounds like youre gonna need it!!!!!! Happy friggen holidays....huh????
2006-12-27 02:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Now that sounds just like my mother-in-law......she calls my husband at work now but never here anymore. My husband never stood up to her or took up for me. I finally stood up for myself and now when something comes up, I let him take care of those who are controlling and manipulative. After all....it is his family.
Under the circumstances...I see no wrong you have done. And when you do see them again.....just act like nothing happened.
If they insist on persuing the matter....just politely tell them you will let your husband take care of it. Good luck.... And BTW....for the first time in 19 yrs.....we stayed home this christmas eve and christmas day.....and it was absolutely wonderful. However; when my husband got to work Tuesday morning ....he had a nasty little phone call from someone....but....he can handle it.
2006-12-27 03:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by Blondie B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be polite but stand-off a bit. There is no need to be rude or mention the situation (your hubby doesn't need the stress right now!). Just move on and don't invite them over again.
2006-12-27 03:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a nasty situation, but it seems to me that you can't win. Your In-laws behaved boorishly, and their lack of understanding towards you would probably only worsen if you were to call them out on this.
If you can, in the interest of peace, i'd let the Husband know,and then drop it.
Don't let this ruin your holidays!!
2006-12-27 01:28:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
How much help is a man when preparing for a large dinner? In my experience, not much. They probably wanted your support and love during the holidays and being close to you and your daughter would have made them feel closer to their son. They feel the loss of their son leaving for duty just like you do. Just send them a card thanking them for their support when you need it most, or card saying you are thinking of them and give them a few details about how their son is doing on leave. They just want to be in the loop and probably are afraid with their son gone and you cancelling the jig that they aren't going to know how he his and be close to you. They are family, let them know that. They are hurt, try to see past your anger and understand that. They have known him a lot longer than you and just want to stay part of his life. Like it or not, you are part of that life, part of their family and a connection to their son.
2006-12-27 01:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
They'll just have to DEAL, plain and dam simple. Your asking us, but it does'nt seem that you made a big deal out of it to them (good job).!! I mean if you wnat you can just say my apologies about the cancellation, i truly hope we can get together again. I'm sure they'll understand!
2006-12-27 07:36:49 · answer #9 · answered by peacfulwar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's harsh. Do you ordinarily get along with them? I would talk to my husband about this. You need a united front. Don't get isolated.
2006-12-27 01:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Isis 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋