How dose a shy 33 year old male find a suitable female?

Answer 1

You look for a shy 33 year old female.

Answer 2

First, don't think "female". Think "woman". You'll come off sounding less like someone who's setting up a lab experiment.

Having said that, try getting out into social situations more. Go to dinner or after hours get-togethers with coworkers, join a club, try a new hobby that you've been curious about - kayaking, scuba, fly fishing, wine tasting, whatever sounds interesting. Take an active part in the group so that you get noticed. Yes, it's hard for a shy person to do that, but the idea is to be seen, so that the women there notice you. You could even join a church, or visit a different one, if you're a believer.

Don't write off the internet either. Yahoo offers a personals service. That will automatically help connect you with people in your area. It may seem like an impersonal way to meet people, but why not use whatever tools are available to you? This is the 21st century, there is no need to limit yourself to 19th century tools. After all - you've already started doing just that by asking this question.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Get over yourself and get out there. The last thing a shy girl needs is a shy guy, even a simple conversation can be like a bad toothache. Females send out signals that you'll never pick up, if you are self-conscious. A woman who is genuinely interested in you may get tired of waiting on you and move on.
Don't be afraid of rejection, thats a part of life. Move on and make sure you know the things you find 'suitable' in a female or you may fall for anything.
Remember that the female finds a very confident man (dont mistake this with cocky and arrogant) real sexy and irresistible.
There is nothing more appealing than someone who is really comfortable in there own skin and REAL. He can instantly put you at ease with a simple handshake and smile.
I know that one day (soon) you will find that special someone...

Answer 4

First off why are you shy? Especially at 33. Get over whatever it is that is holding you back and "step ya game up". Women like guys to pursue them so if you find a "woman of interest" introduce yourself to her confidently. In most cases if a woman can sense that she can pretty much run you over (most shy men you can) she will not like him. You need to be the leader and initiator of the relationship. Remember time is of the essence and love waits for no man. So for once step outside of your box and be a man!

Answer 5

Well "suitable" for what? If you're looking for friends, you'd be best to simply -be- that friendly person you imagine yourself to be. You've got a personality that others would enjoy being with, but you have to "let him out". If it's difficult for you to do, practice by talking with complete strangers (men and women). That will help you loosen yourself up to talk with the ladies you find attractive. Remember, if you can't practice on total strangers that you have nothing to lose or be embarrassed by, then you'll have a much harder time trying to impress a woman you fancy.

Answer 6

That is tough, I would suggest you go places where others with the same interests would be, church may be if you are interested in that. It is hard meeting new people especially if you have been out of the dating scene for a while. You really have to use good judgement and hope for the best. Trust me it is very hard trying to be out and about again. The right person is out there for you, just be patient.
Good Luck to you!

Answer 7

very carefully...first you must search within yourself and to figure out what you like and dislike about a woman...and then i know this might sound crazy but internet dating is great ...you have to find a site that you like and then roll with the flow ....you can chat with females on line and then if you like them and they are what you are looking for then ask them out on a date and if you dont like them once you meet them then you dont have to ask them out anymore.....i only suggest this for you because you are shy so at least you can break the ice by chatting on line first....if you need a great site to vist let me know...good luck on your search for Miss Right!!!

Answer 8

Never stop looking. she could be anywhere, from church to the grocery store or getting gas next to you. It would help if tried to get past some of the shyness so you could approach her. You don't want to let the good one get away.