i love the ring but everyone has been saying that an engagement ring should be an actual diamond, even if its tiny...i just dont understand
2006-12-27 01:09:50 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I've been married for over two years. I didn't get an engagement ring... I didn't want one. I'm not too big on jewelry... I tend to lose things and damage things (what can I say... I'm destructive, LOL). And my wedding ring... it's titanium with 5 CZ inlays, biggest in the middle with smaller ones going out (I didn't care what metal, as long as it wasn't yellow gold... hubby likes titanium, so that's what we got. I haven't broken/bent it yet, that's for sure! HA!). The ring cost a whopping $35 from ebay. We both picked it out. My father got my mom, my step-mom, and both his ex-fiance's rings (did I lose you???). So to me... a ring doesn't mean s***. It's just to show the public that I'm married. I would have hated for hubby to get me anything too expensive anyway... we could use that money for other things, especially since we were both only Airmen in the Air Force at the time. There are a lot more important things I think the money could be spent on. So.... no worries about the rock. It only matters that he loves you and will treat you well. A rock isn't going to keep you together through any rough times anyway, if there are any. :) Good luck....
2006-12-27 01:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 3⤋
To be totally honest, I agree that if you are happy with the cubic z. then that is all that matters. That needs to be your choice and nobody else’s. In some cases, certain men may get cz rings because they are trying to be cheap or careless, and that is tacky in my opinion. In other cases it may be all the guy can practically afford at the time, and that is understandable.
If you love the ring but it bothers you (not your friends) that the diamond is not real, then like eckidd77 said, you can upgrade it to a real diamond when it can be afforded. Another option would be to get a genuine gemstone (already mentioned). It’s a good idea since that way you still get a real stone but it can be less costly then a diamond, and there are so many colors to choose from. I have known 2 girls who have done that and I think its becoming more common to see gemstone engagement rings, but its still on the unique side...it would be nice to have an original engagement ring that didn’t look like what you typically see.
2006-12-27 01:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by garnet_rayne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a problem with having a perfect stone? The only way to tell the diference between a cubic and a diamond is to look for flaws. A diamond , being made naturally , will have tiny imperfections a cubic won't. Unless your going to be looking at it under a magnifying glass you'd never know unless you were told.
Besides all that whoever told you it was unacceptable is being superficial. Its a symbol of love and commitment & if thats all that he can afford, so bit it. Would you rather go into debt before the marrige even begins when debt is one of the major reasons marriges fail?
Enjoy the ring , the relationship and the life your going to build together and don't worry about the stone.
2006-12-27 01:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by thomas 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The ONLY thing that matters is that YOU are happy. Personally, if the makeup of the ring is what is most important to a girl, then I am not interested. Am I cheap? No, I did buy a diamond, but it was a cheap one. Anyway, my wife would rather me spend the money on much more important and fun things than a ring. I flew her to Scotland with the money I would have spent on a better ring. If you want a more expensive ring, however, then that is your perogative. The thing that matters is how YOU feel about it. If you like the ring you have, then I'd say that you're all set! Maybe any money he saved can be spent on something much more fun and memorable!
2006-12-27 01:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell those people who continue to tell you that an engagement ring should be a real diamond, to go and purchase you a real diamond. This ring was a symbol of your man's love. He may not have been able to afford a real diamond at the time, but I bet he will make it up to you on your wedding day. The problem with this world is that too many people have opinions but never want to help with the problem. Enjoy your ring and cherish your man, those people will eat their words in a few years. Thank you and GOD bless.
2006-12-27 01:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Years ago, De Beers, the largest diamond mining company in the world, started a massive campaign for diamond engagement rings. The phrases "How else can two month's salary last forever" and "A diamond is forever" come from them. They don't care who you buy diamonds from, so long as you buy them. Their marketing campaign has been extremely successful, and now everyone things that engagement rings MUST be diamonds, and that there is a deep tradition in this.
Your ring can be whatever you want it to be. But if you're concerned about what people think, either tell them to stuff it or tell them that it is a diamond.
2006-12-27 03:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course its okay. Engagement rings do not have to be the traditional rock of a diamond. I know a few women who dont care for diamonds at all. As long as its not bothering you then dont worry about what other people may think. Its really what the ring stands for that is the most important thing in my book. Congradulation on your engagement!
2006-12-27 01:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you love the ring it should not matter. I think that it is more important that the thought and love went into it then the cost of the ring. Besides you know if you loose your engagement ring or it gets stolen you are not out the cost of a diamond.
2006-12-27 01:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by Mary C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is okay as long as you are okay with it. In fact many people are choice created diamonds not only for financial reasons, but to make a statement against the war diamond market.
I'd much rather have a large CZ then a tiny real diamond. And, one day, maybe for a special annversary, you could always have the diamond changed when money allows:)
2006-12-27 01:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You technically don't even need a ring. It's just a formality. If you and your fiance are in love, what does it matter if it is a diamond or cubic zirconia? These seem to be shallow people that are saying this. If you're happy, forget everyone else. Don't let what they think ruin your joy.
2006-12-27 02:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by StayJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋