ok i wil start from the begining am only 16 and i al ready hav a daughter at 14 months my daughter is walking and she of the bottles n she gav her dummy to father christmas when she went to she him n am just potty training her witch she not doin bad because i hav the potty in the kitchen and she walks to it when she wonts a wee but when she needs a poo she hides.
ok well am 12 weeks preg and i hav a funny fealin its gona be another girl.
i know some of yous are like she should be in school but yes i do go to school even the first time i was preg ,c whil am in school my fellow looks after the lil one and when i come back he goes to work. i did really wont a second one till am in my 20's but i dont belive in killin a life. me and my fellow dont go out drinkin we dont smoke cuz we would rather spend are monny on r daughter and am just wondering am i doing everything right cuz my mum feals like we should go on nights out but i dont wont to leave my child with anyone
2006-12-27 01:08:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It sounds like you are doing fine. I do have some suggestions, use them if you'd like. I would move the potty chair to the bathroom. It's time she learns that is where it all happens. I'm glad you are in school. I think you and your fellow should go out some time but you don't have to party to go out. Go see a movie and eat out. Don't be surprised if your 14 month old begins wetting her pants after the baby comes, it's natural. I wish you and your fellow the best. Remember, your children will grow and live by the example you set, not just what you say.
2006-12-27 03:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the most important things in a child's life is to have both a mom and a dad who are involved in their life and love them very much. Living in a home where both mother and father live together in a caring, loving relationship is even better. One day, your children will grow up and move on to live their own life. When that happens, you do not want to realize you no longer have a relationship with the father of your children. It is an excellent idea to have a night out now and then with your "fellow". Keeping your relationship healthy is a good role model for your children. I have been a mom for 27 years and I have 4 children. My husband and I have been married for 29 years. You will not ever be able to do everything right. You will make mistakes, but that is part of learning and growing for both you and your children. You are very very young and will have lots to learn as your children get older. I think about what I knew at 16 years old and what I know now at 48 and there is a world of difference in who I was then compared to who I am now. I think it is a good idea to go out on a date night, even if it only for 1/2 hour to take a walk in the park together. Your children can not always be with you. If your mom wants to take care of your daughter even once a month for an hour, I suggest you let her or find someone else you trust. When it comes to guiding and disciplining your children, things go much more smoothly when mom and dad present a united front to the children. Developing a good parenting relationship between you and your "fellow" requires the two of you to have a good personal relationship. Make the effort to be alone without your daughter occassionally. She will be OK.
2006-12-27 09:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are doing right by your children!!! Congrats on being grown up enough to do such a good job. But maybe Mum is right and sometimes (just sometimes) you and your fellow could go out for a while without the child. Its important to keep your relationship strong too. And to have some fun also.
2006-12-27 09:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right off the bat I am going to give you lots of credit because you sound like a really good mother and alot of people, even older than you dump their kids off to go out. I see no problem with taking the kids to the babysitter every once in a while because you need time to yourself too. From what you have said it seems to me like you're doing everything you can to help your little one learn.
2006-12-27 13:44:44 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay you are fine, if you dont want anyone watching your children that is fine you are thier parents, i am too a young parent, i am 20 and have a 3 year old and a 16 month old. we both work and my mother watches our children, but when we get off work we go pick them up and go home, we drink somehitng but only at home or someone else home, i am not going to take my daughters to someone else to watch while i get drunk because i feel that i had these children my parents or his family dont so i dont watch anyone else watching my girls while i party, most the people we have are young like in 20 and they have children too so when we drink, we do it socail and the children all play together but the mothers dont get drunk, or the dads dont get drunk because someone has to make sure the kids are okay.
2006-12-27 09:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you seem to have unprotected sex right....but i am not sure what you are really asking....i don't think there is anything wrong with not wanting to go out and leave the baby with a sitter....but you are so young to have a baby and another one on the way....its wonderful that you don't want to kill babies....but why not try to prevent a third pregnancy in the future until you're a little older and out of school
2006-12-27 12:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing, stay in school graduate, go to college, stay home at night and take care of your babies, after the kids are grown you can go out at night if you like.
2006-12-27 13:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your doing fine when you baby is older you can going if you want i was 16 when i had my 1 baby to.
2006-12-27 10:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by Chesney A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋