We met in aug & started dating he pretty much moved in with me after the first date. We got engaged on Christmas of the same year & were planning to marry in april. For valentines day he got me a rose & a box of chocolates which I appreciated but, not long from then I found out that he sent his ex around $200 worth of flowers for v-day. My heart was crushed all the trust I had in him disappeared. I ask him if this was true & he denied it but I couldn't let it go so I ask a few other family members & their answer was he did it. His brother ended up talking to him & found out that he actually did send the flowers so he came to me & told me about 2 months later. how could he keep this from me when I gave him every chance in the world to just tell the truth . He bought a place & moved out although we still dated I stayed at his place or he would stay at mine but no sex involved now he uses my car, money, and stays here now & then just as a friend do you think this will ever be more?
2006-12-27 01:01:16 · 7 answers · asked by sherry s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that if you want it to be more you need to let him go. No more seeing him, talking to him, lending him anything. When he finally questions "what happened", you can say "I am not looking for a temporary thing. If you want to be just friends then we need to go our seperate ways for a while. Then, maybe a friendship will grow. But right now - you are sending me mixed signals. I need to know - What are we?"
If he can't answer it then "bye bye". You need to take charge and lead your own way. Don't wait for him to make up his mind.
2006-12-27 01:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by Diane A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this, but its over. You are now just being used by him. End it once and for all and get on with your life without this bum. And that means no more money, cars, staying over, nothing. You need a clean break.
I know matters of the heart are the most difficult to overcome, but why allow yourself to be hurt even more?
2006-12-27 09:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey, this man is NOT into you. He's using you, and chances are very very slim that anything more will ever come of it, despite anything he might say. He has already proven himself to be a liar and also that he puts his ex girlfriend above his supposed current one. Don't waste anymore time or affection on this jerk. Move on and find someone who treats you right.
2006-12-27 09:06:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, he's got your car, your money, and a place to stay. He can always go out to get laid. Probably banging the ex he spent the $200 on. Time to lose this one.
2006-12-27 09:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by CuriousMishawaka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut him out of your life. You won't move on as long as he is lingering about. He doesn't deserve you or your kindness and love.
2006-12-27 09:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap.
Snap out of it. He's not even a good friend. He's a mooching user, and you are wasting your time.
2006-12-27 09:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. You need your happiness back so go do something nice for yourself!
2006-12-27 09:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by Cat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋