how many kids do you think is enough?

Question

how many kids do you think is enough?
i want 4.
my husband wants 2.

Answer 1

The question should be, how many can you afford? I mean more than just feeding, clothing, school, college, doctors, etc.

Just because you want 4, are you prepared to nurture that many? Are you prepared for the additional 4 years (assuming you space them out every 2 years) of parenting required?

For instance, if you start having kids at 25 (you) and 28 (hubby) and you space the kids every 2 years, you will have kids at the following ages:
25 28 - child turns 18 when you are 43 46
27 30 - child turns 18 when you are 45 48
29 32 - child turns 18 when you are 47 50
31 34 - child turns 18 when you are 49 52

Now, add 4 years of college for each and your ages will be:
43/46 turns into 47/50
45/48 turns into 49/52
47/50 turns into 51/54
49/52 turns into 53/56

Depending on the age you start having children, the ages when they finish school, will vary.

These are just a few things to think about with larger families. I have 3 of my own. I was lucky and started my family when I was 20. By the time the 3rd got to college, the cost of college out ran the college savings we had built up. I'm just glad I didn't have 4.

Answer 2

2

Answer 3

compromise, make 3, yet on the other hand after you have one you might both agree that is enough. You know that you have had enough kids when you do not want any more, but some times life throws a curve ball and gives you another one anyway.

My mom wanted 3 kids, but after two said that was plenty. I have 3 kids and would love more, but need to make more money first. I say as long as the kids are in a loving, patient home with all the necessities they need, then who is to judge?

Answer 4

5 or 6

Answer 5

It's a personal choice for everyone. I had a really bad pregnancy with my son so right now I have no desire to have any more. It was worth it because I love my son more then anything but being pregnant almost killed me....literally. My doctor even said I would be crazy to have another one. So I think one will be all we ever have. My parents deciced 2 kids were perfect for them. I have some family who have 5 kids. It really depends on what each family wants. And lets face it kids are expensive and most people can't afford to have big families.

good luck

Answer 6

(4+2)/2

Answer 7

How many do you have now? Maybe after 2 your husband will want more or you will be happy with 2. We decided when we got married that we'd have one at a time (hopefully) and then decide if we wanted another. We're up to 5 and haven't closed the door yet.

Answer 8

"Enough" is what works for you. I know a family with 11, and I know families with one....personally I would rip my hair out and have a drinking problem if I had 11 kids, but to each their own.

We have 4, age 19 to 3. That is perfect for us.

Answer 9

As many as you can agree to. As many as you can support. As many as you can nurture.

I know people with one child, who probably shouldn't have had that one. I know a woman with sixteen who is the best mother I've ever know.

We have seven. It's my limit, dh wants more, but we know that this is good for now. It is a wonderful family, and I would not change it for the world...it's a lot of work, but the rewards are great.

Answer 10

Your lucky mine wanted 12 and we had 4 :-)
but seriously I just let it happen. Our kids were spread out over a 10year period. Oldest is 10 years older than the youngest. I don't fret about it ,if its supposed to happen it will. We didn't have any children the first 3 years and that was just because it wasn't to be, I think every child is conceived for a reason and when it is not time it will not happen.