Even though I love the Lord...and I know He loves me...I still have a problem feeling as though I have a place amongst the believers?...I just don't feel I have a real purpose...even though I know we are to reach out to the hurting...and I do...I still suffer from unhappiness...This probably is not a good thing for a Christian to confess...I was just wondering if there are others that suffer too...Thank you...but unless you are a Christian...you can't really understand what I am asking...so please Christians only.
2006-12-27 00:33:13 · 29 answers · asked by ticklemeblue 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Thank you for the outpouring of love that I feel from you all (including dialaadel...love has not boundaries...thank you) I do love the Lord with all my heart...and I realize I can not go into all the details of my life...I appreciate all the words that you have taken the time to write...and I value them...I will always treasure them...Thank you.
2006-12-27 02:39:13 · update #1
I mean Daliaadel...sorry
2006-12-27 02:41:21 · update #2
I understand where you are coming from. I have been a Christian for 18 yrs. and still struggle with different problems. Being a Christian doesn't mean you are perfect and will never have another problem. It means you are forgiven and have Jesus besided you to help you through this life's problems. And there will be problems. Just because you accept Jesus into your life doesn't mean the problems and difficulties will stop. Actually, Jesus told us that we will have it hard on earth. I have had many heartaches since I've been a Christian. My husband lost his job, then our daughter had to have surgery and we had no medical insurance, then we lost a baby when I was 4 months pregnant. We almost lost our home. I've lost 2 grandmas to death and recently lost my dad in death. I have struggled with weight issues and feeling totally disgusted with life. Right now, I am struggling with going to the same church because my dad was also my pastor at my church and I can't bear to go there and he's not there as my pastor. I have felt so despondent before that I didn't want to live. But, I guess what I'm trying to say is, we will have hardships as Christians. Think of all the persecuted Christians around the world that are killed or in jail for their faith in God. Even though we have problems, we have Jesus in our hearts and He is there to help us, even though we may not feel Him sometimes. Unhappiness has plagued me for years, because as good as this world could get, it's not my real home which is heaven. I long to go to heaven, my real home and be with my Jesus and family that have gone on. There is a certain longing we have and we should not be part of this world. We are to be in the world, but not part of it. So some unhappiness will come, you know like someone who is homesick and far from home? Plus, the fact that life is just plain hard to deal with sometimes and just plain stinks sometimes! I am praying for you and want you to know that you are normal and everyone has different lives and things they go through on a daily basis. Jesus understands, just talk to Him and ask Him to help you. Don't give up! The failing comes when we give up, not when we keep trying! God Bless You!!!
2006-12-27 00:45:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do understand, I felt the same way. The problem for me was the way the christian emphasis on sin left me feeling bad about myself and others.
No matter what I did I just could never seem to be good enough. Neither could I see anyone else as being good enough. Even little babies were not OK. Even they had original sin. All of these sin messages left me with a world that seemed to constantly have a dark curtain hanging over it.
I went to the bible to see If I could find any solace there and I did.
I prayed and ask for guidance and I was lead to the parable of the prodigal son. I had always been told that it was a story of forgiveness, but when I actually read the words myself it was clear that Jesus was not telling us a story about forgiveness at all. It is beyond clear that the father in the story never judged the actions of the son in any way. If there had been no judgment there was truly nothing to forgive. The whole point of the story was to tell us that the son was afraid that he had offended the father but it was only a misconception in his mind. There was really never anything to forgive.
I realized that this was the real message that Jesus was trying to leave us with. It had just been misunderstood by well meaning people who had been to invested in the idea that sin was real to let it go.
Read it yourself and see what I mean. I bet it helps you too.
Love and blessings Don
2006-12-27 00:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell Him, if you already have, then trust Him for it.
I can relate because for all intents and purposes, I am also 'alone.'
Sometimes I look at it as, "Look, God's keeping me out of trouble!" lol
Trust Him intimately with this. Don't forget:
1) He cares for you.
2) He knows you better than you do.
3) He knows other people better than you do.
4) Look at all the train wrecks He's kept you out of!
5) I don't think that we really have much time left.
a. Do His work. Preach the Gospel. In this 'e' driven world, I am convinced that this is a part of the world. What you might say here could help to be the key to someone understanding Him, and coming to the Kingdom. Not just the question asker, but those that also read it.
Remember, it's the Gospel! The Good News. Tell people when you can.
2006-12-27 00:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remember this- David was a strong believer in the Lord and he struggled with depression. Do not be ashamed to admit your unhappiness. Any Christian who says they are never down- cannot be telling the truth. There were even moments when Jesus while on earth wept. I will be praying for you that the Lord places within you a deep seated joy. In the process remember that you can cry out to the Lord like David did in the Psalms. He wasnt always happy. He loved the Lord like you.
2006-12-27 04:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Loving the Lord is only part of life; the other part is being alive and living life. Now I know that sounds trite or silly but I'm serious. There is no reason to isolate yourself from others, or from joyful situations. Be out there. Do things. Even pretend, or act as if, youi're happy. Don't go to church alone--go during services. Sing and raise your songs to the Lord. Confessing your feelings only shows your humanity--never think it's wrong.
2006-12-27 00:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you're a Christian doesn't mean you won't have some lonliness and unhappiness in your life. This may be the devil's way of trying to lure you from your faith. Christianity is under attack from many forces today. Good Christian friends may be hard to find. But keep your faith and don't falter. Become more involved in church activities. Remember Jesus loves you and I'm sure many other people do too.
2006-12-27 00:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Friend, that is only satan after you, He will put loneliness into any persons life, Myself as a Christian for over 36 yrs. I still go through those times, Did not Jesus felt like he was left all alone, Yes. If your are truely born again you are still a part of that body rather you are just a little toe, If one member of the body suffers then the whole body suffers, Just remember in your times of loneliness, Tell satan, I may be a little toe or finger, But I am still a part of the Body of Christ.
2006-12-27 00:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You must learn to realize loneliness is also part of life. Learn to accept it. Even Jesus felt lonely at times. It is a passing human emotion. Do not be attached to loneliness. Some people love to attach to misery and wanting others to be like them or pity them.
Any attachment to human feeling is a sufferings. It takes quite some time for me to truly understand the meaning of attachement and detach from it.
You will never be truly happy unless you realized or discovered Christ consciousness within you.
I came across many unhappy so called religious people.
Truly happy people discovered their life purpose, not necessary through religion but self deep soul searching.
2006-12-27 00:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by Bright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all feel down or a little out of place at times. Sometimes though, there is more too it than that. It is important to determine if your problem goes deeper so you can find the right kind of help. The Bible is often a wonderful source of encouragement with scriptures like Ps 34:18 "Jehovah is near to those that are broken at heart; and those who are crushed in spirit he saves." I have linked an article that you may find very helpful.
2006-12-27 00:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by mufasa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While I am not Christian, lonliness is a human condition. Why not look into seeing if your church/fellowship has any small groups for people your age?
You need to make some friends! You may also wont to consider some pastoral counseling to uncover the reason for the unhappiness. And, remember...many people face tough times during the Holiday Season, which is where we are right now.
There's a saying, "Fake it 'til you make it". Without trying to make yourself into a hypocrite, put a smile on your face & get a song in your heart, & go face the world. Smiles really are contagious. you'll find people warming up to you, & you to them.
2006-12-27 00:38:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋