I've been in a serious relationship almost three months. After a couple weeks of dating we became serious, even to the point of living together for a few weeks. She then moved her stuff back to her apartment and the process of stepping back continued to the point of now she wants to be friends. She feels that we moved along in this relationship too fast (and I agree). She just came out of a several year relationship less than 6-months before we started seeing each other. She has bonded with my kids and they love having her around as do I (of course). Now she wants to do just "fun" things and hang out with both me (individually) and with my boys. We're also at different stages in our life (over 10 years in age difference). Bottom line is she doesn't want a relationship right now (with anyone) and wants me as a friend. She likes her friends and her new independence. Do I give her the space and hope something develops or should I move on and cut my losses?
2006-12-26 23:37:20 · 10 answers · asked by Tony 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u r a finance guy, cut my losses . hahaha. yes u should
2006-12-26 23:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by coolguy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Cut your losses man, that's an unknown timespan you'll never know about....it could take years, it could take one week..that's solely up to her....
if you can stay friends, then by all means do so...but don't push relationship at all, in fact move on...cause like i said..the time it would take for her to move on is unknown.
But i wouldn't be suprised if years down the road or whenever, especially if you decide to cut the losses, she suddenly bounces into your life ready to be with you...for some reason if you run away you become the "man they can't have" and want you back.
2006-12-26 23:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Move on and cut your losses. It doesn't seem as if she's the motherly type, (at least for your kids) and that's what you need, besides a woman that can enjoy your lifestyle with you. You're at different stages of life emotionally. You need someone a little more mature it seems.
2006-12-26 23:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you did move too fast and you should back off. Living with someone and interacting with their kids is HUGE. Especially for someone younger. if you can just be friends do it but if youre looking for someone to be stable in you and your kids lives, just cut your losses.
2006-12-26 23:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by jean grey 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Give her the spave she's asking for--all she wants is a little time to heal from what she's already been through to have something solid with you.
2006-12-26 23:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Give her space and then see what happens.
Then if nothing happens move on with your life.
2006-12-26 23:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
move on
2006-12-26 23:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by Cutie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe try to be friends, you never know what might happen, but tell her how you really feel about her, ask her what she feels about you.
best of luck=)
2006-12-26 23:42:33 · answer #8 · answered by danielle t 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
cut your losses.
2006-12-26 23:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by St♥rmy Skye 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-12-26 23:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋