she keeps texting and phoning saying that she loves me and that she misses me . i asked her if she wants to get back but she says she dosent know as she is unsure about us . we live 150miles apart . why is she doing this to me ?
2006-12-26 23:33:04 · 42 answers · asked by bob a builder 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she says she is unsure because i only see her at the weekends and that i havent commited , but we have only been together 6 months
2006-12-26 23:39:35 · update #1
Tell her not to contact you until she sorts her head out.
2006-12-26 23:35:13 · answer #1 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why she's doing this, but it sounds like she's hurting you, and she probably isn't doing this on purpose! She either realises she has made a mistake, or she does love you but whatever made her dump you in the first place is still on her mind! Did she tell you why she was dumping you when she dumped you? If you still love her then I think you should both meet up and talk about it-there might be a way to resolve the fact that you live so far apart. If you don't still love her, or if the problem can't be resolved, then just ignore her calls and texts-she will leave you alone eventually, believe me the same happened to me!
2006-12-26 23:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by DanniG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because homeboy, living 150 miles away means that u can't see each other like u want to. Her friends have prolly been downplaying the relationship claiming that it could never work because if she getting tempted how much more would u be getting tempted. In her heart she might know that she has (or has not) stayed faithful, but she will never know if u did, and until u guys are together permanently, she does not want to risk getting hurt so she broke it off. Remind her the next time u talk that while ur not desperate, she was something special. It will put to rest her fears and maybe get u the girl
2006-12-26 23:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by A.K. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a woman & women have no logic only feelings. One day they're happy one day they're sad. Some women can change 15 times in 1hr. My friend got dumped similarly on his B-Day then she got back with him later that night. Logic? It seems she might be confussed with her emotions. She probably does love you but maybe the logistics of the distance is playing on her mind & she is scared of going full throttle to moving in with you. Will she lose friends? her job? Women think about 10 more things than men at one time. They worry about everything that might happen even though it never usually does & it's a waste of time. She's going through the emotions of her emotions probably. She will never give you the correct reason even if your right, see how pans out.
2006-12-26 23:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by A . Z . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesnt want anything to do with u if she dumped u.shes just teasing u..shes spoilt ur christmas...why is she messaging u if she dumped you ask her...christmas is an ocasion where people go out together and have a good time if she dumped u on the good day she doesnt really care that much about u...and if she liked you she would have though about ur feelings and would have waited til after christmas..i would say that you dont deserve a loser like her...try find someone whos worth ur time someone who wants to be with u someone who will care about ur feelings...trust me pall it aint gonna work getting back with her it will happen again and again iv been through things like this before dont make the same mistake again coz someone who loves you wont do that...just have a long talk with her on the phone and ask her why she let u and find all that out and do what you thinks best its ur life im no one to judge may be things al work out everyones different...
2006-12-26 23:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by whats up yaw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still want her back make sure she knows you are not some toy she can throw away and take back as she likes. Play hard to get and put thru the impression that you are so over her. Dont reply to all her textxs, rather reply about 10% of them and let your replys be indifferent. Dont say "thanks for taking me back"
Also act as if you dont reaaly need her back. She'll keep pestering and you should only give in through physical confirmation e.g. kissing etc rather than telling her - you can have me back
2006-12-26 23:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sucks that you got dumped on Xmas eve.
Big Time!!!
I feel for ya dog!!
But the chick sounds messed up.
How long ya been together?
She should really stop calling and texting though, that is some messed up behavior.
Stop replying, stop answering.
Might be tough but if she has broken up with you that should be it.
2006-12-26 23:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she was stressed about christmas because she didnt get you a present or because she thought the present she got you was soo crap you would dump her...
its up to you but i would seriously consider making her wait for any answer and dont go rushing back into anything with her... she doesnt appear to think much of you to do that on christmas eve!!
2006-12-26 23:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by confused 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she's playing games with you.
She doesn't want to be with you, but it souds like she wants to start the appropriate psychological trauma to prevent you from finding anyone else either.
I'd tell her to choose, either she wants to get back together, or she needs to stop texting you, if all she is gonna do is go on about loving you and missing you.
2006-12-26 23:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by Alberta Sunrise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a s##t trick doing that on Christmas Eve. What difference would a coupla days have made? I'd try to forget her if I was you Bob. Look for somebody closer to home......distance is often a killer. Best wishes.
2006-12-26 23:37:08 · answer #10 · answered by lou b 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately she doesn't want you...but she doesn't want you to move on either (ego). Do what's best for yourself and stop thinking about what she's thinking/feeling. Now's the time to take the tough stance and make a break. If you guys are meant to be, then it will happen. Good luck x
2006-12-26 23:36:59 · answer #11 · answered by basement_chix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋