i ended my 6 year relationship with my fiance 9 months ago. Since then, ive been enjoying the single life!lol
at the mo, i have 4 guys chasing me. im just getting used to the attention from guys again.
one of these guys i really really fancy. ive know him for a while. he was kind of chasing me when i was in my past relationship too.
we have kissed eachother a few times and i have stayed over his place a few times. he does want to take things further sexually though. i admit, i have been abit of a tease!lol
whenever i meet up with this guy, i dont hear from from him for weeks!he ignore my messages too so i end up chasing him. i eventually give up and he starts chasing me again, yet, when we meet up again the same thing happens all over again!
why is he behaving like this???hes the only guy im interested in!
hes the only one who knows about my past relationship as i met him through my ex. he knew my ex but they were never friends and my ex has now moved away.
2006-12-26 22:34:34 · 7 answers · asked by XCuteX 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when we are together he always wants to be around me and is always complimenting me.
we have been in contact with eachother for nearly 2 years now.
he is 29 and single.
i have heard that hes never had a girlfriend before and likes the chase.
2006-12-26 22:35:25 · update #1
He's a waste of your time. He wanted you because he coulsn't have you and now he can he's bored with you. You said it yourself - it's the thrill of the chase he likes, but you'll never get him to setlle into a relationship. Have fun with him, by all means, but don't pin any hopes of a commitment on him, because it won't happen.
2006-12-26 22:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem here is that you both seem to like teasing each other. Now teasing each other is fine if that is all you want to do, but if either of you are looking for something more serious than that, then I think you really have to start asking each other what the other is wanting.
It seems to me that you are the only one who is looking for a serious relationship here; I think he is just playing silly buggers with you and it is starting to get on your nerves. It's like Ricky Gervais's very limited brand of comedy: once you've heard it three or four times, it's just not funny any more. You say you fancy this guy, so if you want some commitment from him, then you are going to have to put him on the spot and give him an ultimatum: either he stops messing you around and commits to a relationship with you right now, or you will move on and look for someone else. Relationships need commitment from both partners or they just will not work out.
However, since you say this guy does not want to take things further with you sexually, I think that this should be evidence enough that he's not really interested in you in the way you want him to be. Maybe you should try one of the other guys you say are chasing you, or look further afield. Good luck!
2006-12-27 07:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by colliedug111060 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you know what you want, i dont think he does although at 29 i think its really about time he tried his first relationship, and you may as well give him that little push seeing as it has been 2 years, if he wont commit, i think you need to let go because all it will ever be is the chase, and fun as it is, you cant keep playing games with each other forever. I think he needs to see how great you are and stop fooling around.
2006-12-27 07:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because men are hunters. They were created that way and have been for centuries, so old habits die hard. He is interested in THE CHASE. Like a well-fed cat with a mouse, he's just playing with you. He has a severe case of this, since he doesn't seem to function well with relationships unless you ignore him. So keep ignoring him and find someone who can act like he's evolved and not still carrying around his caveman club.
2006-12-27 06:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by Suzi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he scared of committing or pushing things too fast, maybe he is unaware of your interest..! or maybe he is just a player, hence why you like him. or maybe he thinks you're a player? Instead of spinning your head around you should just ask him what he wants out of this, does he see a relationship or does he just want fun.. maybe you're not the only one he's having fun with? Put the little rascal on the line, save yourself a few headaches! And ask yourself what you really want too. maybe you just need the single life for a while... you have been tied down for a while! any way good luck :)
2006-12-27 06:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by peee x 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... be careful that he's not just after bed time. Make sure he's interested in YOU and your dreams and sharing life together, not just your bodies. You could get hurt badly otherwise.
2006-12-27 07:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jax B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is teasin you, giving you a dose of your own medication. Have fun just dont overdo it.
2006-12-27 06:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by funnysam2006 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋