I am a black 24 year old woman and I have always dated outside and inside my race. I was just wondering because I have seen people who won't do it all and people who are open to it. I am a Georgia girl so it seems that if you are a black male and date outside your race it's cool. But, don't be a black women and date outside your race because your a gold digger. I was just wondering what everyone thought about that general sterotype. Just for information, I have been with my current boyfriend for 2 years and he is English and white but can quote every line from all the Friday movies so I had to give him a chance. I just wanted to know what you all thought.
2006-12-26 21:51:08 · 16 answers · asked by Bethany S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Nobody should have a problem with it. Love knows no color or race. I hope you stay happy with your guy.
2006-12-26 22:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should not matter at all, but it seems to really irritate some races. Love is love, not love is white or love is black! People are so afraid of stepping outside of the box and their fears are not justified. I am white and have a white boyfriend,but I know people that date outside their race even when the rest of the world makes it difficult. You have to admire these couples that are ridiculed just because they chose someone of another race. I wouldn't have a problem if either of my children dated outside of their race, but if I did my parents would have a big problem. It is a generation issue and I think in time it will be a thing of the past.
2006-12-27 08:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, let me point out that black guys who date outside their race are just as discriminated against by other blacks as women who date interracially. I am one of those guys. I'm married to a hispanic woman, and we get the evil eye everytime were around blacks or hispanics. So no, we guys don't have it any easier than you.
Secondly, what I feel about interracial dating is that race shouldn't matter when finding love, and strong attraction both mentally and physically. What I think about how people treat those in interracial relationships, is that it's very stupid. We learned to ignore the retarded treatment we get by some at grocery stores, etc. The sad part is, I used to try so hard to date black women, but none wanted anything to do with me. I later learned that it's because most black women from what I've personally experienced, usually only date the kind of guy they see in the magazines and media, the big giant convict looking dude. I'm short, lightskinned, and aways got the "I'd never even touch you" look from most black girls. And now that I'm with a girl outside of my race, black girls STILL give me the bad look. And if I were single, most of em still would want nothing to do with me.
It's too bad.
2006-12-27 05:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm open-minded on that because I'm in an interracial relationship. I am native, and my spouse is white. Never made much of a difference in our lives, other than the stereotypes that were out there, that didn't condone our relationship.
It didn't bother me, though, because I was always outspoken when it came down to 'who was right'. I always say that relationships aren't based by the color of your skin. You can love anyone of any race, culture or religion, and that's your choice! No one has that right to judge you because of your preference! That's just the way it goes! If no one likes it, then that's THEIR garbage, not yours!
We have two beautiful boys, and on both sides of our family, they fully support us. Sure, there was the odd family member who didn't want us together, but that was something THEY needed to deal with, on their own. I came right out and told them that it was my life, not theirs. I'm living with this man, not them!
They know where I'm coming from, and it's all good!
People can say what they want and be as ignorant as they want, but in the end, I'm still happy where I'm at, and it's no skin off my back what others say, because I always have an answer for them! HAH!!
2006-12-27 06:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen dear...you should not ask for any validation from anyone because you have an open mind to accept people for who they are..race, color or ethnicity should have nothing to do with dating, relationship or love. The fact that a person is white, black or hispanic or whatever does not make him/ her any better, cuter, smarter or anything than the other..please follow your heart and be with anyone you fancy..AND DON"T let anyone create any bias in you..I wish there are more people like you who can see the beauty of people without catagorizing them
2006-12-27 05:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by nirvana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Your statement. That was a slap in the face. To each his and her own. Your statement? A black woman dating outside her race is a gold digger!!! Who told you that? That is an insult to you and everyone else. Lose whoever you hang with that has that attitude.
2006-12-27 08:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm from the West coast and I think wherever you go there will be people who will have difficulty accepting interacial couples. I'm white & I prefer white men however I see nothing wrong with people who prefer black or white. I don't see why it's such a big deal. If your family and friends are giving you a hard time about it and you really love this guy you need to talk to them. Don't worry about what everyone else thinks.
2006-12-27 06:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the stereotypes go both ways. (I don't want to elaborate, because I don't want to give anyone any ideas.)
In general, I think most men who have risen to wealth very quickly see ALL women as gold-diggers.
I think the majority of people are more receptive to interracial dating than they were in the past, but there are still many, black and white, who see it as a "betrayal" of their culture and heritage.
2006-12-27 06:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by Iris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From Yahoo Answers, I get the impression that men are VERY open to interracial dating. Women? No. If you want to date outside your race that's fine but I bet all the opposition is from women.
2006-12-27 05:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It cost Harold Ford, Jr. the U.S. Senate seat from Tennessee in the 2006 Election.
2006-12-27 08:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a white girl who was married to a black man.....I loved him to me that was all that ever married. At first it was very hard my parents (italian) did not approve of it but they saw how good he treated me and they took the time to get to know him.....
Go what is in your heart girl good luck happy new year!!
2006-12-27 10:06:05 · answer #11 · answered by bifgrl31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋