Can working mothers provide appropriate care for her children?How?
2006-12-26 21:33:29 · 10 answers · asked by Zreik N 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Commitment. Dedication.
I'm a working mother and have been for all of my daughter and son's life - minus the first 3 years when I was still married to their father. And I'm very grateful to have been able to have that time with them exclusively. They've seen me finish my college education while working and tending to them (they spent alot of time with family members during the college time).
How do we provide appropriate care for our children? Dedication to what matters most. We find a way. We stay up until 11 o'clock helping with school projects, make trips to Wal-mart way too often for supplies the children just remembered they needed, agree to work late the next day so we can get off to take our children to soccer practice then gymnastics. We are involved in school plays and boy scouts. We cook dinner (or have great husbands that help around the house) and stay up late baking cookies for our child's party at school the next day. We run ourselves ragged and show our kids what our priorities are. But hopefully we also show our kids that we have to have down time, too. And we can only do all the things we do because they help out.
The biggest lesson in our household is we are all 1 family. We all do our part so we can have more time together for whatever we want. Those things may include riding our horses, playing picnic, inviting the whole soccer team over, or just a movie and game night. Our kids are our priority.
Do I ever let them down? Sure, from time to time. My kids (now ages 8 and 10) know I'm not perfect. But they know I try my best. And I practice that with them, too. As long as they try.
And in the early mornings before they get up, I get my computer time which is my down time. Thanks.
2006-12-26 23:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no shame in being a working mom. I am one. A working SINGLE mom for that matter. The key is to divide your time. When you're not at work, its all about your child. For care during work, its the mother (or parents) responsibility to find care for the child. Whether it be a well trusted family friend or relative, or doing the research and finding the most appropriate child care center (key is child care, not daycare... remember that when selecting).
But as society is these days, most households depend on 2 incomes to live nicely. If its a single family home, the single income becomes that much more important.
If you're a working mom, be proud. Realize you child will grow up knowing what hard work is and how it pays off in the end.
happy New year!
2006-12-27 02:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, problem is they need help from the fathers as well, what has shocked me in this modern and mature day and age is the amount of father who do not participate with their children. When it comes to divorce as well the facts of just how much of a lack of assistance a father ends up providing.
The cost of living these days has thrown the modern day family into needs of dual employment, and for those that end up as single parents, the struggle then becomes dismal not to mention the actual emotional and security needs of the children involved.
My regards to the many of fathers out there who do also give it 110 percent, problem is there are too few.
2006-12-26 21:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by Keanu 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
working dads do it all the time. does it make them any less a father? im a stay at home mom of 4 and i actually believe parents working outside the home is good for children. it gives us time away for awhile and helps the child not only understand that work is a good thing, but lets them know that we arent always there, so when they're 20 they can be independent adults and not depending on us for everything. i also believe that for the toddler age when they attend daycare and Pre-schools it gives them time to be with children their own age so they can learn to interact and get along with children of their age.
2006-12-27 01:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by happychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our son started at nursery when he was 6 months old, and loved it. It wasn't cheap, but he was very used to playing and mixing with other children when he started school. It also gave him an interest outside of the home, and something we could talk about when he came home (obviously when he was older and could speak). I would recommend it.
2006-12-26 21:36:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a working mother and i provide for my children! there is always a way. and don't ever be ashamed to ask for help. you can trust me on that i have been there.
2006-12-27 01:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by debbie_gibbs2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure..You work one shift while your husband works a different shift then you don't have to depend on anyone else to care for your child. Your child is not being raised by strangers, he is not being sent to school sick, you are insilling your values and morals into you child, you are not asking the govenment to pay for your child, and he will be home with people who love him.
2006-12-27 01:15:54 · answer #7 · answered by whattdo? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course. My sister watches my son for me while my fiancee and myself are at work. It's a great arrangement because he gets to stay with family and he is confortable there.
2006-12-27 00:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends, family, day-care centers. Make sure you know all you can about the last two. Hope this helps. peace
2006-12-26 21:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by Spike Spiegel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother watches my children while i am work
2006-12-27 01:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋