I really liked this guy for over a year he asked me to come over at least 45 times and I never did until like a week ago.The reason we never hung out was because I just got out of a bad relationship. I also needed to know I could handle a relationship with someone who is semi-paralyzed . So I went over and we hung out, got drunk, and made out. He was really into me and I liked him. The next day I stopped into his work told him I was gonna come over the next day and well wrecked my car when I told him he was cool with it supposedly. He still wants me to come over and hang out. Then the next day he makes a comment about no one ever wants to date a YES SIR kinda girl and Im like well I told you no plenty enough times when I blew you off and laughed and he exploded on me and then told me he doesnt ever see himself being with me as more then a friend, but then later changes his tune and tells me he needs to get to know more about me, nows hes kinda talking to me I dont know what to do?
2006-12-26 21:31:01 · 5 answers · asked by goldensaint25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also I have no problem with him being in a wheelchair its the fact that apparently he does because hes always angry all the time to most people besides me, but apparently now Im getting the backlash too.He has pointed out to me that we couldnt have sex ever as far as going on to tell me that I would be better off with someone who had more in common. I kinda felt jilted when we have mostly everything in common except for hes in a chair and Im not. I tried telling him we had alot more in common then sex and that sex doesnt matter that much to me, because I liked him as a person and I was fine with him being in a chair it didnt bother me, but I believe he thinks if he pushes me away Im better off, but since he went home for break hes seeming to find it hard to talk to me after me bringing up the fact that his disablity did not defer me from liking him. Maybe he just doesnt really like me I just find it hard to believe after liking me for so long and then boom just not..
2006-12-26 21:50:23 · update #1
Well just to say this about me I dont think I was playing games I was just trying to deal with my breakup and not involve him in the drama when I was ready to date I let it be known he knew I liked him since before October. I told him. He also dated someone in this time and made in effort to smear it in my face and I acted cool about it even though I was mad. I knew he liked me though whenever I came to see him at work he went way out of his way to come talk to me and I'm just a customer we were never close friends. Supposedly he forget I told him I liked him back in October he told me he thought I just wanted to come over and play video games he never thought I really liked him. Well then why invite me over and put the moves on me duh? I told him making out is not a way to get to me. Then he changed his tune again I invited you over to get to know you. Men make no sense to me?lol
2006-12-26 22:38:32 · update #2
Tase it slow and let him call the shots for now.
It's a matter of waiting and seeing where his head is at.
But always be honest about how you feel, you both sound unsure of yourselves at this stage.
2006-12-26 21:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Janine N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first off, just because he is in a wheelchair does not mean a thing. A person in a wheelchair is just as human as we are!! and for the games, well you are both playin games with one another, so quit being childish and go out on a dinner date and get to know one another.
2006-12-27 05:38:28 · answer #2 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, and I don't like the part where he said "no one
ever wants to date a, "Yes Sir" kind of girl".
Move on, he's not the one.
2006-12-27 05:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your time...he probably has trust issues due to his disability...get to know each other and see what happens...good luck
2006-12-27 05:33:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he is lucky to have anyone interested in him considering he is in a wheelchair.
2006-12-27 05:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋