Hi- i am 23 years old and I decided to have sex for the first time last week and for the secon yesterday ive never even let a guy touch me in those places befor out of shyness but me and my boyfriend have been together for 18months and he has respected that about me. i expected it to be passionate and soooo pleasurable why was it not like that for me but for him he was enjoying it so much will it always feel that way. please help with advice....
2006-12-26 21:28:51 · 20 answers · asked by sunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow! All theses answers and everyone miss the fact that your expectations were unrealistic. The way you built it up in your head I'll bet no one can compete with that fantasy. Besides sex is what you make it. your inexperienced so I'm guessing you just lay ed there uncomfortable. And he probably spent the whole time trying to be careful so you would've say the that one word "stop". It takes time lose your expectations and go with the flow. And just like life you get out what you put in. But most important relaxed and do what you feel don't be afraid. He'll find out what you like. But first you need to find out what you like or he'll never know. find out with him and by your self. hope that helped. good luck!
2006-12-26 21:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen girl... there can be many reasons as to why it is not pleasurable... cos according to doctors, sex is a stress buster.... so it will always be pleasurable.... now the question comes, that y it is not to you...
here are some of the possibilities....
1. you are not doing it with your whole heart... you are doing it because your guy wants it... or just to please your guy....
2. it might be that your guy doesn't know how to satisfy you... may be his tool is too small or he has erection dysfunction... or he is not able to sustain it longer... or he is an amateur and knows nothing as to how to please a woman.
3. You have a mentality that sex is disgusting....
if you have this mentality, no one can help you out, except your guy or the psychiatrist.....
4. you had a lot of expectation on it by seeing it on tv or something... but you didnt accept sex with open and free mind....
like these there can be many things ... you just need to figure out what is wrong.... after that correcting it will become easier...
if you correct it out, it wont be like the feeling you have right now....
2006-12-26 22:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO trust me it only gets better just relax and talk to each other you need to try different things and different positions and you ll learn to in joy it just remember there's no rules in sex do what ever makes you feel good
ps
every body has a first time if it didn't fell good there wouldn't be alot of other people in the world lol
G
2006-12-26 22:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by nicname 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eee I too did the same thing once, he became my husband.. and its still not pleasureable.. you have to incorp toys into it.. some women just dont get that oohahh in sex.. its true, for me its even painfull.. all women are different.. dont belive the hype.. I also had sex with other men when my boyfriend (husband) and I broke up once.. its the same.. Goto your doc and explaine..sometimes its psycological too. Good Luck there! Congrates on waiting so long.. What made you start?
2006-12-26 21:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Holly is cellorific! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it won't always be that way. It depends on the guy and how hard he he is doing it. Tell him to do it harder next time. Don't get me wrong I think sex should be saved for marriage. I just know a little about it(i really do wish i didnt) as do most teens.
2006-12-26 21:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by addict for dramatic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't always be like that. It will get better. Perhaps you should look into a book on lovemaking and techniques maybe he needs to learn more too. The Art of Lovemaking is a great book. There is more to sex than just the 'act' of intercourse.
2006-12-26 21:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first couple times are so uncomfortable you dont like it. But. as time goes on and you do it all the time. TRUST ME YOULL LIKE IT. Everyone is different guys like anything- everything turns them on were as us ladies it takes awhile. I know how you feel-I was at that place before if you have questions you can email me.
2006-12-26 21:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by lithdailums7@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he needs to learn how to pleasure the female love area and not just try to bang the heck out of it. Take it show at first.
2006-12-26 21:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can hurt for quite some time. I know that I had endometriosis and it continued to hurt. For me personally, I can't handle a big guy. So this is another possibility for the reason. If it continues then you can go to your GYN and ask if there is a biological reason for it.
2006-12-26 21:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by girlcop1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex will feel great once you learn to relax and allow yourself to enjoy it. And communicate with your guy on where and how to be touched, and return the favor.
2006-12-26 21:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋