How to forget?

Question

I miss my exboyfriend but i can't bear to let him go. The thoought of having to let go of him is even more painful then getting whipped twenty times around. Sometimes, the heart overwhelms with saddness. i know all of u would probably say time heals everything but i really really need more than that. i want him back. should i see the shrink?

Ps, we broke up mutually. saying that we should try some space apart, because our realtionship is getting too stagnant. We were perfect together btw, its just that sometimes, when u are withthe person for too long, your feeling for the person might be lesser? i dunno how to explain. I've tried talking to him about getting back together already, but he doesnt want to. But he is still always there for me to console me and help me move on. The pain of knowing that he is not going to love me anymore hurts.

Answer 1

sure.......

Answer 2

The shrink ain't gonna help unless you're really bad and you don't sound it here.
Time heals everything? I think not. Time teaches us how to bear the pain!
12 years ago my love died. I still miss her!
Som of the things that help are the knowledge that the person you love is happier the way things now are.
Remember when you were together how happy it made you when he was happy?
Well he is somewhat happier now so that should soothe your heart a little.
If either you or he can find someone else that will help heaps.
If he falls in love you will know he is very happy and this will make you happier.
If you fall in love, this will further help to soothe your pain. If you truly love him, then he has a special place in your heart.
If you fall in love with someone else they too will have a special place in your heart and the two special places will strengthen each other so that the healing love you feel for your new love will assist in healing the other.
In the meantime remember, he is happier now and think of him smiling . The memory of his smile will help.

Answer 3

my story is the same u know. I've had my break up 4 months back but i can't forget her, she's moved on. I call her up at times and things have been sorted out she knows me in and out and therefore we are at ease now. Initially, there was a hesitation that what if she thinks that i am still trying for her but then slowly it got sorted out. Communication is the key. Take it out. It will ease your problems. If he loved you at some time then he'll definately respond just be sincere and tell him to stay in touch.
I am telling from my own experience.

Answer 4

i was like this with one of my exs.
first thing dont date until youre comfortable with it, it makes it worst honestly.
surround yourself with fun supportive friends.
try to avoid talking about him often/at length - a little is normal but talking about him all the time keeps him in your mind.
and yes time.

I found that fun friends helped take my mind off of him and let time do its work. Also concentrate on something IE get a hobby or work on an existing one.

good luck!!!

Answer 5

since its hurting you to be without him call him and see if he would like to give it a another chance but only if you guys got mad and broke up or for some nonchalant reason othr than that if he cheated treated you bad then let it go occupy yourself with friends do what you wanted to do but couldent cuz you were with him then itll simply die down little by little till hes gone goodluck!!

Answer 6

did he break up wit you or did u break up wth him. if u were tha one to break it up tell him that u want to get back with him if it was him then i dont kno. but u cold always cover up ur unbearable pain and sadness with a new love. (a new bf)

Answer 7

Say dat u still luv him want him back & also tell ur affection towards him & also how much u luv him