My husband and I have been thinking about me being a surrogate recently. I have 2 beautiful children who have completely blessed my life and I would really love to give that joy to someone who is unable to carry a child on her own. I just don't know where to start or how to go about it. What are the pros and cons of being a surrogate?
2006-12-26 20:36:59 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
God bless you for considering such a wonderful gift! Of course, there are many reasons to be a surrogate and several things to consider if you believe this is something you are interested in doing.
The three main things you need to know (in my opinion) are:
--Are you finished with your family? Emotional attachment usually isn't as great as you expect... you have 10+ months to prepare for the "end". The joy and blessings you bestow when creating another family make it much easier to transition afterwards. However, if you feel you would like to have more children in your family at a later date, the separation could be much more difficult.
--What does your family, friends, and possibly your work think about this? Because you are doing this for someone else, it could be a difficult thing for others to understand. I highly recommend discussing this in depth with your family and closest friends. They are going to be the ones there through the morning sickness, swollen ankles and MOODINESS! ;o) With their undying love and support, this could be one miracle you will never be able to top...
--What do you want from this? While most surrogates do receive some sort of financial support, make sure you are doing this with an open heart and mind. This could be the most rewarding thing you ever do in your life - but at times it can be very emotionally draining, too!
If you are truly considering this, I would be happy to help answer any more questions you have. No matter what, you are an angel for just thinking about blessing someone else with the gift of a child! That is priceless!
2006-12-27 14:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by Indiana Mom Of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I think you're thoughts on helping breathe life into someone else's life by giving them a joy like a child is extremely selfless, and wonderful.
Please remember, it's not easy carrying a child in your womb for 9 months and then giving it up. It's a part of your soul, and that gets taken away too. It's not easy, and sometimes it becomes very emotional.
The pro ofcourse is being the facilitator of that joy. Nothing can replace the selfless deed of bringing joy to someone who is not able to, and that my friend, is the highest blessing.
God Bless You.
GoodLuck!
2006-12-27 05:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by Yvonne Mystic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The emotions involved in surrogacy are very strong on both sides.You should make sure you have appropriate support before choosing surrogacy espeacially from your husband, your childrens & your family
2006-12-27 04:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by Shr| 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I have
2006-12-27 04:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by tony r 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋