2006-12-26 20:35:29 · 19 answers · asked by priya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
propose to him!! My sis did and they are getting married next month.
2006-12-26 20:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by mel_johns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
You see the thing is, your question is based on what you are feeling at the present moment. You have an overwhelming feeling inside you telling you that you belong together and that he is as desparately in love with you as you are with him.
To answer your question, I don't believe there is such a feeling as ready. People take a plunge with all the uncertain feelings that they have because they have faith in each other and the love they share. Now if you are with a person and he is not even mentioning the word marriage, you need to find out if he is even thinking of you as his potential life partner.
The thing is about us women, we tend to start planning the perfect wedding, house and picket fence before the man is even considering it. This has a detrimental effect on our emotional and physical well-being as we spend a lot of time in an enxiety mode.
You need to relax. Learn about him and the kind of woman he likes. Take time to listen when he is talking, this will give you insite into what is his thought process. Is he thinking of marriage, or is he just fooling around? During this process have as much fun as possible. You sound young, so use this to your advantage. Create light hearted moments where you can easily have a peek at his personality and social behavior.
This will also be an opportunity for you to find out if he is the best men for you. Most importantly, if you are not the type of woman he want, don't change yourself for him as you might not be able to maintain your fake identity. If he want you, he has to want you just as you are.
Good luck and God bless!
2006-12-27 05:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by neo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen girl.... you cannot make someone do anything... especially marriage is something which you should make someone do .....
there has to be a reason and proper explanation as to why he has not initiated talks for marriage... get to know the reason first.... there might be something which you both need to work on...
if he is not initiating, it simply means that he is happy with the way life is going or he thinks that you are happy with the way relationship is going... guys can stay without marriage... they dont always like getting married... but girls do... so, you have to talk to him about this...
initiate the talk like, you want to have a baby.... this will give him enough indication that you want to marry....
give him some days to think over it and then ask again...
even if he ignores this hint, then you have to ask him directly.... say those cute mushy mushy words that girls do speak... like a small home... make family plannings with him... and see if he is entertaining that or not....
i think this will do the trick.....
take care but be very cautious as to not offend or demand anything from him...
2006-12-27 04:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When both of you know that you love each other then you have to be staright in asking for the same. Some time the delay results into disastar and some time a man is skeptical in asking such questions. Be Bold and ask staright. ALL THE BEST AND PLEEEEEEASE LET ME KNOW WHAT IS OUT COME.
The same happened with me and i am enjoying my life with my loved one for last 12 years.
2006-12-27 04:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by agarwalmunishkumar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force someone to want to marry, that will only lead to divorce. Don't rush him, wouldnt you rather him propose when he is ready instead of when he feels pressured to do so? You may drop a hint or two but, leave it at that.
2006-12-27 07:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him be ready to marry you. He will know when he's ready like you will know. You have to be patient. All good things come to those that wait. Don't push, don't rush, just chill and he will come around.
2006-12-27 14:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by sjw1229 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make someone be ready for marriage. If he isn't ready, and you pressure him into it, it is very likely that your marriage will just end in divorce.
Besides, why would you want to marry someone who isn't sure they want to marry you?
2006-12-27 10:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone be ready for marriage.
You can tell him that you feel marriage is the next step in your relationship and ask him how he feels about it. but you don't want to pressure someone, they have to be ready.
2006-12-27 04:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to make your boyfriend marry you, then he isn't ready.
2006-12-27 04:46:13 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with making anyone do anything they arent ready for.
2006-12-27 04:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by *) ayla 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really loves you the way you love him he will ask you for marriage!!he must begin!!i wonder if you had kids!!this will speed this decision!!if yes you must talk to him decently!!because the kids must be raised up in a healthy family!!
2006-12-27 05:50:32 · answer #11 · answered by donia f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋