I just need some advise on what to make off a situation that occured on xmas day.I was at my mother- - inlaws house with my son and my partner. There was also his sister inlaw and brother with their three children. Anyway being xmas i drank a bit too much wine, its the first time i have done this in three years and had to lay down upstairs on a bed. Within about half an hour his sister in law was calling me and my partner, i have never heard such a foul mouth especially in front of the kids they were all petrified. She said i am a fat lazy cow and will never succeed in being qualified as nurse which i start in january and that we are spongers because we get help with tax credits and i am also dragging my parnter down to my level, i just cant believe this has happend we have never done anything to her.She even hit my partner across the face and told him to get a life and that he is a crap dad and that we abandon him all the time which is so untrue. What do you guys think of it all.
2006-12-26 20:27:20 · 20 answers · asked by NATALIE N 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i was upstairs protecting my sons eras from her foul mouth, he also said he was scared i never shout like that in front of him.
2006-12-26 20:39:33 · update #1
im natalie n too??isnt that weird and im starting my uni diploma in march and i get help with tax credits and i am in the same situation with my brothers girlfriend who dares to pass judgement on my mothering and my partners fathering all though she has no kids of her own. as tempting as it is dont slap her as she could be a silly **** press charges and stop you starting your nursing, it is really hard not to believe me i have wanted to sooo many times but dont. keep yourself calm and leave where ever you are, water off a ducks back and all that. she sounds like a right nob and i know exactly how it feels but just bite your tongue and get your future sorted for you and your family, theyre will be a lot of jealous people who cant stand the thought of people bettering them selves, just steer clear of her and if you have to be near her just try and be civil. good luck with everything. natalie n xx
2006-12-26 20:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For what it's worth I'd just go ahead and prove the b1tch wrong - do your nursing thing in January, work hard, finish it and get a job in nursing. Tax credits are certainly nothing to be ashamed of, but in any case you may not be elgible for them when you and your partner are both working. And her comment about being a crap dad is kinda overshadowed by her being a bloody awful mum in front of the whole family.
If I'm honest, I feel sorry for the grandmother - if I've read your question correctly, her two sons came round with their partners. One partner got pissed and crashed out upstairs and the other started a slanging match. She must be wondering why she bothered, bless her.
2006-12-27 04:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by frenziedmonkey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let this be a lesson in relationships --- book now sor a fly away somewhere warm Christmas for next year --- she will be so miserable having no one to curse about.... Make the best of the New Year with your partner and children.. Look ahead to 2007 you can't change what has gone but you are sure in the know now about inlaws.. Happy New Year...
2006-12-27 11:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she was drunk and reflects more on her own insecurities
don't give her the satisfaction of acknowledging that it even happened - if she raises it, say, "Oh, that..." and leave it there. If she apologises, accept it with good grace.
That way, she doesn't know that it hurt you, then she won't know to try it again. If she knows it upset you, then she knows how to get to you.
ALL best wishes for your new course. I think it's fantastic that you are going to be a nurse, a brilliant profession. If anything, let her unguarded remarks be the thing that spurs you never to give up - best reply to her - prove her wrong.
Go on in there and win.
As for Tax Credits - you are entitled to them, end of the argument.
If you show yourself to be the bigger and stronger person, you win this without saying a single word and no-one can accuse you of making it worse.
All the best! P
2006-12-27 04:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by Pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was she like before all this happened? Had she been drinking too, in which case maybe it brought out the worst in her. Now that awful day is over, I think you should go to see her and ask her what that was all about and ask her to explain why she said what she said. She might just be feeling terrible about what she did, especially if she had had too much to drink. Although only you know whether she was acting out of character or not. Good luck.
2006-12-27 04:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are so going to hate me for this but I honestly think that drink is the root of all evil, lay off it especially round someone elses house. It sounds as if you both had too much to drink and that was the result of it all. I would forget about what happened and carry on regardless. I feel sorry for your poor mum-in law who spent weeks organising the day for it all to end up like that.
2006-12-27 09:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Family tensions always run high on Christmas day. Forgive and forget and move on.Life is too short for petty hatred. Show your sister-in-law what you can do. She may be jealous of you starting a new career.Maybe she wishes she had the guts to.
2006-12-27 04:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi, poor you. I've just spend Christmas with my inlaws & my partner and baby daughter, and they were all lovely. I really can't imagine being talked to like that. If my partner's sister talked to me like that I'd speak to his mum. She'd put her in her place! Either that or I'd avoid her as much as possible in future (hard to do at Christmas I know!) Good luck for the future.
2006-12-27 07:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you all had a bit to much to drink that night. I would just ignore the comments, move on and prove her wrong. What did the mother in law say about all this???
2006-12-27 12:02:56 · answer #9 · answered by emmalp75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that you sister in law was drunk
when things have calmed down - which i hope that they do see if you can meet on mutual territory and talk over what and why it happened = especially in front of the kids.
what did you in laws and partner think?
if she does not want to talk then that is a sign of guilt - she is in the wrong and not you
arrange to meet with your in law and tell them how you feel and that you still want to visit but now when your sisiter in law is.
i hope things work out for you - i have been in situations like this and have let things cool down and talked things through.
let us know if you can how you get one
thinking of you
2006-12-27 04:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by julesjayjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋