2006-12-26 20:23:59 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I love him so it wouldn't matter if he's adopted or not.
2006-12-26 20:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by Princess of Egypt 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps my first reaction will be shock as I would be hurt that I missed out on such an important detail of my spouse's life and perhaps would have expected him to tell me about it earlier but then, I would try to act cool and make them feel so too. It was just a detail that they should have shared without any hesitation because it does not make them any better or worse. They are still the same person with the same personality. I would try to make them feel all comfortable with the 'revelation'.
2006-12-26 20:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not care about the fact that my spouse was adopted. I'm not sure why anyone would.
But I WOULD care about the fact that my spouse and his family kept this non-issue a secret. I would wonder why they think this simple fact is such a hideous secret that it can only be told when 'it's too late' -- after the wedding. Most importantly, it would make me wonder what darker secrets are being kept.
I would have trouble trusting him again.
2006-12-27 02:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be surprised but I would accept him, I would ask him why he didnt tell me until the wedding night. I would like him to tell me the whole story, how did he know he was adopted, when and who told him, and how did he react about the situation himself. I guess its not about my reaction which is important its more important how he handles this situation and I think that now we are married we could face that past together...I could help him complete that part of his life which seems blur and different.
2006-12-26 20:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by +_+ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, "Well, that was random."
Unless he felt bad about it for some reason, I wouldn't be concerned. If he brought it up because he wanted us to adopt children in the future, I would be amenable to talking about it (though that's a bit inconvenient timing). If he had some serious issue because of it, I would help him as well as I could.
I would, however, be curious as to why he chose our wedding night as the right moment to tell me.
2006-12-26 20:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by Iris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CIA agents are not allowed to divulge much about what they do. They cannot even tell you where they go, for how long, OR even give you a contact number. Telling someone you do not know very well what you do for a living COULD be really bad. BECAUSE I KNOW people who work for certain agencies I will not mention, I myself would be completely understanding.
2016-05-23 09:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being adopted isn't an issue. Keeping it a secret until the wedding night would be though.
2006-12-26 20:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by WonderWoman 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what type of relationship I witnessed between my spouse and their parents on the levelity of reaction.
2006-12-26 20:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I would be slightly annoyed. I mean this person lied to you throughout the entire courtship process. If they were willing to lie about something that big for so long, what else are they willing to lie about?
2006-12-27 02:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by StayJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not really react. It dosn't mean anything to me (unless of course they looked just like me)
I don't think most people would react at all.
2006-12-26 20:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shocked, but it shouldnt be anything major since your spouse is still the same person, whether they were adopted or not.
2006-12-26 20:25:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋