Since everyone seems to think it is shallow to break up with her because she got fat.
When I met her she was fit and sexy, even hot, and she did what I told her to do, she listened, now she has a chubby friend who eats Hagen Daz with her, and tells her stupid stuff about men, she is a different woman than the one I asked out...
2006-12-26 19:41:17 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"....doesn't do what I tell her..." Aren't relationships suppose to be a 'team effort' with compromise and stuff...its not healthy for you to boss her around a vice versa. Break up with her because your in an unhealthy relationship- not because shes "fat" and your shallow.
2006-12-26 19:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well if she is truly different from when you met her then perhaps you should end it now. It would probably be the best thing for both of you. I do hate that she has let herself go with that friend of hers. You know if you don't want to break up with her maybe you should get more involved with her. You know encourage her to exercise and watch what she eats. There is nothing to stimulate a woman like a hot boyfriend that is into her. Sounds like her friend is jealous of her relationship. Although I must admit I am not in agreement with the bossing around part. You know wanting someone to listen to you and TELLING them what to do is two different things. Maybe she is just tired of you bossing her around. Then again I am sure this isn't the whole story. Good luck and I hope things work out for you.
2006-12-27 03:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by Tina S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is shallow to break up with someone that is overweight! (hope you get overweight some time and find out what it feels like) Your comment about "her being a fat pig" Well, you are the PIG! I'm not sure why she would even want to be with you with that kind of an attitude! Did you get in relationship with her just because she was HOT! IF you did, then YOU ARE SHALLOW! There are more reasons to have a girlfriend then just for LOOKS and SEX! You disgust ME! You also sound like a CONTROL FREAK! Why should she have to do what you tell her to do? Is she your WIFE? I should hope not! I was married to one of those, and they are abusive! He's now married to someone that does that to him, and he isn't happy! But you sound like a spoiled kid wanting their way! That is not mature enough to be having a girlfriend in your life!
2006-12-27 03:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not "do what I Tell her...anymore" sounds like a shallow excuse as does "she got fat"...maybe there's something else really bothering you about it. If it's the friend (sounds like it) then you could talk to her about that. Relationships are about two people growing together, not some static little bubble that neither of you ever change. Yeah, you may have changed so much you need to move on. It's a distinct possiblity. I suspect there's something deeper going on here or you're shallow.
2006-12-27 03:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by JDA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She appears to be younger than you are. Her respect for you is eroding. In the best relationships, one mate doesnt tell the other what to do. There is a mutual respect that grows out of Love. Infatuation is an exciting emotion, but it is often times a short lived emotion. Love is quite different. Love, true Love lives on forever. Love always causes one to put his Lovers feelings and well being before our own. In other words, Love has no selfishness within it whatsoever
2006-12-27 03:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by Phil J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her.
She is no longer the woman you fell in love with!
That is all that matters.
HOW she has changed does not matter.
You married one person. Due to the progress of time and the natural effects of people changing with time, you are now married to a different person.
You at first simply gave the reason that she was fat but you are now starting to show that there are other changes.
To reitterate : you fell in love with one woman. You are no longer inlove with your wife. Do both of yourselves a favour and get a divorce. Pronto!
P.S. She won't do what you tell her???
You sound like a bit of a git your self.
2006-12-27 03:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can't beat 'em, join 'em. I suggest the Dove chocolate ice cream that is now available at your grocers freezer. Of course Ben and Jerry's is good too. Since she is not listening when you tell her what to do, try this: listen when she tells YOU what to do. Don't worry, it'll probably be something like "Hey ungrateful man who has tried to oppress me, could you get me some of that chocolate and peanut butter swirl?" That's not so bad.
2006-12-27 03:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by Jenr R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't break up with her because she got fat or because she doesn't do what you tell her to (jerk, you shouldn't be bossing your girlfriend around anway). Break up with her because your unhappy in the relationship. Sounds like your irritated because her friend is telling her stupid stuff about men which translates to telling your girl what an a****** you are.
2006-12-27 03:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you need to ask yourself is do you love her. if not let her go find a guy who likes a woman with a little beef on her then you can go look for another stick girl to date. and after she gets sick of listening to you telling her all the wrong things to do, you can start all over again, that will keep you busy all year long.
2006-12-27 03:46:34 · answer #9 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's obviously lost interest in you and apparently dumped you long ago. Either you were too self-involved to notice or just too thick. But, if it strokes your ego to do so, go ahead and "break up" with her. Then consider buying a mirror. I'm sure you'll find a qualified and lifelong lover in there.
2006-12-27 03:46:19 · answer #10 · answered by scruffycat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋