I've babysitted many kids. Some good and some bad. I've found that the bratty ones with superiority complexes seem to have parents that don't discipline them. My question is, why don't their parents just discipline them? I've seen some parents of bratty kids discipline them by saying "don't do that", but then they don't follow up with it so the kid continues to misbehave. Don't the parents know that the kids drive everyone crazy? Why do the parents just let their kids walk all over them? It almost seems like they'd let them get away with murder. For example, I once had to babysit some awful kids who threw food and feces everywhere. When the parents came back, they saw their kids misbehaving and they didn't discipline them, they just said, "Hey kids, we missed you!" and gave them kisses and hugs. What's up with that?
2006-12-26 19:29:37 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
the present situation, where parents are away frm their child for a long time with lot of stress in the office, and when they come home they see their young ones they feel stress free, and they dont feel like shouting them as they are guilty of leaving them with a maid... and they themselves cant spend the time with their kids...
2006-12-26 20:54:37 · answer #1 · answered by Richa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several reasons some parents don't discipline: some are afraid they'll scar their children for life (as in "Oh no! If I smack my child's hand/butt/leg for doing this/that/the other, he'll never forgive me!!), some fear the child abuse thing, some just don't know HOW to discipline, some just want their child to grow up being their friends...but that isn't how it works!
"Spare the rod, and spoil the child"
This quote is so true! It didn't matter how old we were, we knew growing up that if we had done wrong, we got our butts smacked, usually by mom with dad's belt or a switch (which we had to pick ourselves from the orchard...ooh, that was the worst part of it!!!) Nowadays, this punishment would surely be under scrutiny! But my sisters and I are fine: we don't hate our mom or our dad and 2 out of 3 ain't bad! (younger sis is a bit of a wild seed...but she was a good kid growing up!)
There is no set reason why some kids turn out bad anyways: it just happens sometimes...but I would say that most of the bad kids of today aren't getting any punishment, or if they are, they're not getting it strongly enough or often enough!
2006-12-26 20:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by BraidyLocks 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the kids are like that because the parents don't discipline consistently. The parents are taking the "easy" route through parenting. Personally, I vote for parenting and discipline courses being mandatory. I've seen the good and the bad. I work very hadr at being one of the good. It's not easy. It is stressful. It takes a ton of effort.
There is a great website that I found when I was getting my education degree and I still use it as the mom of a 4 1/2 year old. Check it out and pass it along to those who may need it.
www.disciplinehelp.com
2006-12-26 19:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just answered your own question. It has to do with the parenting. Kids know when they can get away with stuff. They test their parents to see if they get away with it. they keep doing it to see how far they can go. Some parents don't realize that they aren't doing anything wrong and think that disciplining their children will mean that the kids won't love them anymore. When actually in fact when you discipline your child it tells them that you love them. But some parents don't know this either. maybe talk to the parents. kinda probe and ask questions. some people with kids feel that if you don't have kids you shouldn't give them any advice so be careful when asking. I don't know everything but I did take a child development course and will be certified soon.
2006-12-26 19:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by Shari D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love, structure, involvement, instruction of respect, discipline and consistency.
Whats up with that, cost of living, latch key kids created by the dual working parents, cost of childcare, computers and the behavioural issues it has not only on the kids but heck, some of the parents live on line now ignoring their kids. 24/7 work week, try and be a parent when your employer only can provide midnight work hours so some drunk can have his 2 minute McDonalds drive thru, or make sure your bank machine is working at 11pm at night. Some parents are just plain stupid and could care less, some without morals, who cares about it as long as nobody dies its all ok. I guess I have the same complain..whats up with that, LOL.
2006-12-26 22:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by Keanu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The parents, they dont tell them what is right and wrong and they dont punish them, if a child is acting up some parents just softly tell them to stop, and the child keeps doing it, if the parent doesnt take control and let the child know that they are the parent then they end up being "brats", I dont understand how people can say they dont know how their children got that way, it was because they didnt do anything to try to stop it. And yes I do have a child so I know what Im talking about. My daughter is almost 16 months old and she has manners, says please and thank you, and when my husband and I tell her not to do something she listens, its all in how the parent "parents" the child.
2006-12-27 03:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man I am SO assuming you don't have kids here by the way you're talking :P
A lot of parents don't discipline out of guilt - they had a rotten childhood, their parents were too hard on them, they work too much, they go out too much etc etc etc. Here comes the no discipline!
Parents try to raise kids the opposite of what they had when they were younger, especially if their childhood was horrible. [or they THINK it was] They let their kids have the run of the house and their lives because they want them to have good memories. Ahhhhh I know!
I discipline my kids behind closed doors. I don't beat them, or say horrible things to scare them senseless. I just feel that they are old enough to remember what they are supposed to do, and know that I'll find out whatever they didn't do - and follow up with it. Some of these parents might do the same - wait until a quiet moment instead of freaking out. I might say something like - 2 days - to my daughter in front of a group of people if she is being a nutcase. She knows that means two days no computer and no tv/movies/videogames. But the other people and parents around might have NO idea what just happened and assumed I let her off :P
I totally agree with you though - there are some mean kids out there. Way out of control. Don't babysit them again - go with the good ones :)
2006-12-26 19:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by PinkPrincessNerd 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Parents that really fail to discipline their children at an early age and give their kids the earth on a platter end up with really bratty children who expect everything handed to them without expectation and fail to discipline nasty or rude behavior but continue to even reward baby performance or behavior with more and more. Bratty Kids sometimes end up our States Inmates.
2006-12-27 08:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because in todays society its a sin for a parent to lay a hand on their child. I mean come on use some sense, no you shouldn't beat your child but there is a big difference between beating and slapping a kid cause he is being rotten. Also it seems if parents have any money they just instantly spoil children to a point that they think the world is handed to them. So hope I helped.
2006-12-26 19:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by Jdeuel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A parent's job is to create INDEPENDENT kids. Sounds 2 me like those kids are bored s**tless! Unfortunately there's going to be a lot of kids let loose in the next few years that won't have a clue. INPUT is essential. LEARNING is even more so. SHAPING and HELPING a child reach its true potential is tantamount for the child. LOVE is sometimes the hardest teacher - especially when the child's best interests are concerned!!!
2006-12-26 19:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has alot to do with the parents. There are a lot of parents that don't realize how they speak to there kids, and in some cased even have little respect for them. I know that most parents are under a lot of stress and they don't know how to handle the stress and they take it out on their kids without realizing it.
2006-12-26 19:53:00 · answer #11 · answered by jm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋