What should i do about my girlfriend?

Question

ok well me and this girl have been goin out for almost 2 yrs on and off. i dont know if im still happy with this girl, ill i do is try to make her happy. i feel like im not good enough for her but not because she says things to make me feel that way but because of our backgrounds. i guess u can say she is more goal orientated and has a good amount of $ but thats not what im even after i usually pay for everything unless she offers to help out some. She could have way better guys than me. i know i love her and i know she loves me. I dont really get to see her that much but sex isnt even a problem. We talk all the time on the phone but i feel like thats where most of our relationship is at I wish i could have a girl that is more available but she does have more important things like school and her mom does make her do alot of ****. Im also afraid that one day she will notice that maybe im not everything she wants and leave. She tries to comfort me about it but i feel like its jus a front

Answer 1

It's called TRUST! Trusting your girlfriend. Don't you think she knows what she wants in life? Or who she wants to be with? Why are you trying to put all these barriers up between you two? What is stopping you from trusting HER? Has she done something or said something to make you feel like she doesn't know what she wants? GET COUNSELING! for your own lack of self-confidence! It sounds like YOU ARE THE ONE that doesn't know what HE WANTS! Not her! If you have invested 2 yrs., into this relationship, then it is time for you decide what to do with your relationship instead of putting up all these "what if's" UP! ITs like saying , "yes but..." The "what if's" only happen in your head! IT is also called "FEAR." Fear means : FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL! Are you afraid of committment? if not to her, to any one? Unless she is out sleeping around on you, being verbally, emotionally or physically abusive, then you need to "recount the cost " of this relationship in or out of your life!
Furthermore, her trying to comfort you!? What's up with that? That sounds like "mama trying to comfort son," she should never have to be put in this position of trying to comfort you! That is very tiring on her! BE A MAN! and learn to deal with your own insecurities instead of putting it all on her!

Answer 2

you sound like my boyfriend.. he is a resident alien here in the U.S. and his ex-gf used to make him feel bad because he wasn't a U.S. Citizen.. she used to call him an asshole for no reason at all and told him that she hated his mother's dog... she was more goal oriented and does have more money than he ever had.. i am sorry to say this, but i don't think that she loves you. if she doesn't praise you when she is with you then she doesn't love you. i'd say that you two are probably together because you are used to each other. my boyfriend admitted that he wasn't truly happy with her because he had the constant fear that she would leave him because he wasn't good enough for her... or that she wasn't happy for any reason... he even sold his stuff just to get her the things that she wanted-- and then she'd talk down to him..

i also think that if you two have been together on and off for a couple of years is because you two don't really want to be together, but end up together because you're there, so it's more of a convenience thing rather than true love.

i believe that true love is when you just spend time with the person without even having to feel like you have to make them happy. my boyfriend said that he is happy to be with me because even though we go to Fry's, Gamestop, or Best Buy with him; he's happy that i am just happy to be with him no matter where we go..

i think that you need a girl that would just love to be with you and have more time for you.

good luck thinking about it..

Answer 3

i've been with mine for 4 years now and he says the same things if shes with u then take advantage cuz to be honest i hate when he thinks that way just be happy that u do have someone and if doesnt work out then at least u know that u made the best of it or do things that make u feel ur good enough there must be something she like about u that she keeps coming back

Answer 4

You need to think postive stop worrying about things you have no control over. Life is too short. Just enjoy the time you spend together the rest will work out. Believe in yourself and your partner.

Answer 5

don't think about all your worries dude....just think about all the positive things and all the sweetness the two of you give to each other...because the more you're insecure about it the more likely you two are gonna end up the relationship. Insecure guys are a major turn off for girls always remember that....if you truly love her...prove to her that you're different from other guys and prove to her how much you care about her. You can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

If you aren't confident in your relationship with her, she will get tired of it. IT will only end up hurting your relationship more. You have to be strong enough to get over the differences in your backgrounds and/or career goals. Igf you don't feel you can, be fair to both of you and end it now!

Answer 7

first of all, stop putting yourself down. she got with you for a reason. second, you may not have a lot of time together, but if you try you can make it work. try meeting for lunch sometime or something like that. you sound nice, don't give upon the relationship or yourself.

Answer 8

my lord man if you love her keep her and love her while you got her prove to her that you are worth her time

Answer 9

don't worry, hang in there and be faithful to her. if she really loves you, none of that **** will happen.

Answer 10

dump her in my lap