I have full custody and a restraining order... He is bashing me all over myspace! how sad I know... anyway, his girlfriend is 17, he says her parents signed a paper that says she can date him, is that even valid? Anyway I am tired of him and what he is saying about me. He is basically saying that I lied to him about the court dates (he was served, therefore had all the info he needed). He should have read his paperwork right? Anyway he is not allowed to be near us for a few years, he is asking people to talk about me and say horrible things about me on myspace.com. I have already saved and printed all the things he is saying about me, and all the things all of his friends are saying about me. I want to know if I have a case of statitory rape? If I call what will they tell me? does anyone have any advice?
2006-12-26 19:02:45 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It depends on which state you live in. The age of consent varies from state to state. With that being said, in my opinion you should just leave it alone. Just move on with your life and let him move on with his.
2006-12-26 19:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are dealing with a State to State law, call your States Attorneys Office to find out.. NOW the mere fact that he stated her parents signed a paper.. puts up a red flag. At age 17 that would not be necessary if she is at the age of consent. If she is not.. it is not a parents right anymore to decide if a minor child can or can't have sex.. it is a legal matter. See why the "signed the paper" throws up a red flag?
His bashing of you is called slander if he is using your real name. I would advise you to call the States Attorneys office. That would be your best bet as they can direct you from there... on both accounts, the slander and to check to see if this girl is even 17 yrs old.
Good Luck.
2006-12-26 19:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by H.O.T. Dog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a four year difference is not a very uncommon thing in the world we live in. I believe that maybe you should think about what's best for your kid and always try to maintain a stable relationship with the ex when children are involved. Kids don't like seeing divorced/separated parents involved in feuds, courts, etc. I would also advice to cancel your myspace account. Unless your a musician or a high student, theres really no reason why you should have one all that thing brings is drama and it sounds like maybe your too old to be dealing with that kid nonsense.
2006-12-26 19:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by ItokeDOyou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you call in and tell them about it, they probally will do nothing about it. it is statitory rape, but only the parents of the girl he's dating can put him in jail. he sounds like a real jerk, for saying things about you, and having his friends say things about you, if i were you, just to stop the fighting, and set a good example for your daughter, i'd delete the myspace account, and dont contact him anymore. if the courts said he's not allowed around you or your daughter for a few years, then its probally best that you keep him away, and out of your life. the courts did this, because they can see that he's an obvious loser, and you were more fit of a parent than he was. so, for your daughters sake, keep away from him, dont worry about his life, worry about yours and your daughters.
2006-12-26 19:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by superyduperymommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Deal with the issues that effect you. Yes you can call and report him and they can look into the issue but they won't tell you if you have a case because you are not the person who is being statutory raped obviously. They will look into it all you can do is report it after that your out of the picture on that one. What are you expecting to get out of it personally? Besides revenge?
If you want to take him to court for defemation of character well that is another story. I feel badly for your daughter as you two are playing games and she will be the one caught in the middle. You two need to learn to get along for the sake of your daughter otherwise she is the one who will be hurt in the long run.
Why do you care who he dates? Why are you obsessed with his friends comments? Sounds like you both need to grow up and deal with the issue of hand and that is the welfare of your daughter and nothing else.
2006-12-26 19:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the state... but, the real answer is to DROP IT. You filed a restraining order, so you want him out of your life, right? Either move-on with your life & forget about him, or just call the producers on the Jerry Springer show. These are the decisions that separate the drama-seekers from the rest of the world... choose wisely!
2006-12-26 19:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by Dan K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure where you live! But in Louisiana, there is nothing you can do about it! It's legal and I'm pretty certain, most states are the same!
I would quit holding a grudge and let it go. Your daughter will be the one who suffers. You have to learn to be the bigger person, if you ever want your daughter to have a happy life! He's gonna be around for at least another 18 years!
2006-12-26 19:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by jen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is legal to date her even at 16 without a parent signing. He is just saying they signed because he thinks it's illegal.
I'd just quit looking at the myspace where he is saying these things. People near/close to you will know that he is the one in the wrong. Don't play games with him, just go on and forget.
Good luck (sorry he's a jerk)
Mary Jane :)
2006-12-26 19:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mary Jane 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The age difference seems lots larger now then it may be if she became 19 and he became 23. appears like your daughter has a sturdy head on her shoulders and in all threat could make sturdy sound judgements. Be open along with her, and in case you enable for her to pursue a relationship invite them the two to spend time collectively at your domicile of abode, so which you will get to be attentive to the guy, and you will sense that shes risk-free. understand that in case you do no longer enable your daughter to this point this guy, threat is, she will have the skill to in the back of your returned, i think of its constantly greater effective to be some what excepting and be supportive (with barriers of path, inspite of each and every thing you are the discern) extremely then be completly opposing to it, and a minimum of this sort you be attentive to whats occurring. Set limits as you're able to in case your daughter have been relationship somebody her own age. yet definite i could enable my daughter to this point somebody older then her, inspite of each and every thing my spouse and that i are a pair years aside, my mothers and dads are 5 years aside and my companions mothers and dads are 8 years aside, age has no relevance and your daughter may well be years previous the boys her age, its everyday that woman date older men.
2016-10-28 11:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its consensual then its really nobodies business but there own.
The parents are aware and they both know what they are doing.
When the girl is that close to 18 she knows the difference...and most girls the ones I've seen seek the relationships more then the men themselves. Its easy to point the finger and who and whom did what....but basically they are both old enough to make legal decisions. (and the parents consent is there)
However if I were you....I would move on with your life...think how lucky you are to have your children and free of him in your life.
2007.....a year for new beginnings and Happier days!
Best wishes
2006-12-26 19:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its legal in fl i had an exgirlfiends dad call the law on me she 17 me 21 and the cops told him thats ok 22 is a nono 21 ok anyway if you took his kids for away few years and all that and all hes doing is whining on my space feel lucky that he didnt go crazy and do a whole lot more remember that a restraing order is just paper till the cops get there to back it up You won LET IT GO!
2006-12-26 19:08:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋