What do you do to fill up the gaps/loneliness if your unemployed?

Question

Anyone out there between jobs? and finding it hard what to do w/your time? I do. Especially since most people I know ARE working so I have way too much time on my hands.....
If anyone out there is going through what I'm going thru, how exactly do you handle it? like what types of things do you do to occupy your time and give you a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day? Things also that help fulfill you....

Answer 1

Well i am disabled, and most of my friends have moved away or are working. I have animals that i take care of , and when i am feeling good. I have taken care of my mother, who was dieding, and i lived in a hospital for a while, and then a nursing home with her. She lived even though they did not think she had a chance at all. Well there was a lot of pray. But enough of that , i did take care of her and her husband for years . But when i am home, i try to get out once in a while and see my grandchildern. But i have become kind of house bound lately, and today i had day surgey, how waiting to find if they found out anything. Hell you can create things from things you find just thrown away. You can make things at home, or draw if you have anykind of paper, and something to write with. You can journal. You can go to a nursing home and volumteer, or just go there and see the people that are there. They will love to have you, cause most of them do not have anyone coming in to see them. You can go and help out your parents if they leave near you. There is reading, you can go and shovel snow for those that can not affort it, but need it. You can voluteer at school, chruch. There are so many things that you can do, that don't really cost a thing, and you will find that you will meet some really intersting and great people. So just sit back and think about what you could do to help others, or even help yourself , and go do it. It will feel up you gaps, and loneliness. Have you given a thought to going back to college, and getting a degree? It is really up to you to get up and do something to feel those gaps, and volunteering will really make you feel better. Even just going and talking to a elterly person. Just the way they light up, when you go to visit them should really make you feel a lot better....But as i said it is really up to you how you do this.

by the way, Happy Hoildays to you.

Answer 2

You probably should start seriously reviewing your options for a job- whether it be where you live, or should you move, and check out jobs elsewhere with respect to pay and cost of living. Also, what field are you in? Is it on the downslide all over? You may want to take this time to think about going back to school and getting a degree so you can get a better job. You don't mention money- so I assume you dont really need a job to keep your lifestyle and if that is the case, try volunteering- ANYWHERE- it will give you a sense of purpose- even meals on wheels programs.

Answer 3

People don't realize that it is not as easy as just going out and getting a job, it takes time and patience. Find a hobby, I used to write a lot, short stories, etc. Also go explore where you live. Go to other areas of town. You may not only find a new job but a whole new life that way. If you want a part time gig to hold you over until you get the good job, and decent pocket money, go get a job delivering pizzas. It's part time and you walk out with cash every day. Also, there is less guilt leaving when you land that good job. Keep yourself busy, don't just hang out at home, find something to do. Be patient things wil work out in the end.

Answer 4

I am unemployed right now as well. I dont know about you, but I find myself falling from the confidence I once had.

What I found helped was volunteering. I volunteered at a no kill animal shelter. It was hard work cleaning the kennels, but I felt like I was making a difference in the world. Since it was no kill, I didnt have to worry about the cats being euthanized. The volunteering has also increased the networking they say is important to getting back into the workforce. (esp in small towns, it isnt what you know, but who you know that gets you the jobs)

Every day I write down what I did. Not just think about it, but write it down. Seeing it on paper or in a journal lets me know I really didnt waste away a day. Even if it was just going for a walk around the block. (also important to get out)

I also got myself some easy crafts at Walmart. I hadnt cross stitched or donelatch hook since high school. (we wont go into how long THAT has been!) But, now I have gone a cross stitch bib for a friend's baby. And I am working on a latch hook of Noah's Ark for another friend. These are making me think and hopefully keeping my mind on edge.

Good luck to you! You are doing the right thing to look for ideas to keep your spirits up. :) (that's the last thing....always remember to smile. Even at yourself it will help your spirits)

Answer 5

I see many good suggestions here. The important thing to remember is that, assuming you WANT to work, a job search is in and of itself a job. There are many great books you can read to get savvy about your job search. Tell everyone you know that you're looking.

In the meantime, keep your resume up. Volunteering is an excellent way to add to your resume, do some good in the world, AND network with others who may be in a position to help you in your job search. Consider looking around for internship opportunities as well--not all of them are exclusively for school credit. Take classes--either in real time or online--to strengthen your existing skills and learn some new ones.

When you're not busy sending out resumes, interviewing, volunteering, in class, and/or interning, occupy your time with activities you enjoy and make you feel good about yourself. Read, listen to music, spend time with friends and/or family...you get the idea. Do your part to keep your spirits up.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Yes! There are several GREAT things you can do right now.

First -- Volunteer somewhere doing what you enjoy most. Volunteering gives you a sense of accomplishment, of helping others, and in learning new skills. And sometimes you even meet people who can help you! There are many organizations needing you.

Second -- Write a story. Write about your life or something that you would like to write about. Be creative, take yourself to far away places, tropical retreats, live adveturous in your stories. Sometimes through creative writing you learn new things about yourself. All times it is fun!

Best wishes to a bright future ahead!

Answer 7

I am in your boat.
I've been unemployed for almost 4 years now, not because I'm lazy. My training is so technical and diverse most employers say "you're over qualified". I joined a non-profit organization that provides social services to the needy in town and spend alot of time interfacing with the local government. By the way, I have been diagnosed with bipolar and anxiety disorders and depression. Get involved and help someone else, it'll help you. That's the fact...

Answer 8

If you have a back yard, set up a landscape project,design a difficult one so you can really feel the challenge, also playing with dirt get rid of stress, looking at the things you have accomplished at the end of the day and the beauty, makes worth while.

Answer 9

First, start actively looking for work - anything! Alternatively, you could try volunteering somewhere (hospital, nursing home, etc.) and it could even lead to a real job. Main thing is to stay active and get out into circulation. Another option is go back to school and take classes that will provide you with usable skills.

Answer 10

well, I could be doing things, but I'm not, most of the time. I just play on the computer, read, take long baths, stay up late, watch movies. Sometimes I exercise. shop when I have the money. yeah, you get pretty lazy. the thing is to keep a routine. get up at 8 am. and do whatever work you need to do. stay busy. clean your house. make a plan. look for a job.