It was great in the beginning, he was a wonderful guy. We were together 6 years. 2-1/2 years into the relationship I found out he was checking out singles on-line sites. But he said that he was not signing up just checking them out. Did n't like my adult children around his house unless it was a nice day so they could stay outside. In his eyes everything I did and said was wrong. Always talked about other women. But always told me he loved only me and that he would never stray. I couldn't take always being wrong in his eyes and that he always liked women. He once took a woman to lunch 4 times in 2 weeks and said it was business. He would make or receive phone calls and go outside to talk to them so I couldn't hear them. We are now split for 5 months, some days it is easy other days I just can't stop thinking about the good times we had. He could never say he was sorry if he said or did anything wrong, he would just blow it off. I just couldn't do it anymore. What more could I do.
2006-12-26 17:39:50 · 9 answers · asked by Nan of Many 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on....it's in the past. Always remember the good times you both had.
2006-12-26 17:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by Billy T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you go on? Is this a trick question? It sounds to me like you just got out of a big burden. This man is a liar and a cheat! You are robbing yourself of any future you might have by living in the past. This guy does not deserve this love and devotion you offer. You did the best thing in the world you could do for yourself and that is letting him go. Now, the hard part. You must let the past go as well. Regardless of your age your future depends on YOU! What do you want to do with your life? Where do you want to go? Don't wait for another man to come along to define you. Define yourself. In doing so you'll show men of quality what you have to offer because you will become a confident and happy lady. Those are very attractive qualities. It's ok to cherish the good memories you had with this cad...uh, I mean, guy....but let him go. Move on. Don't waste another day pondering "what if?" You are at a beautiful place in your life. Make it what YOU want it to be. I pray God give you strength and guidance in this new and exciting chapter of your life.
2006-12-26 17:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't real easy at that age, but I think I would rather struggle on my own then live in an unhappy relationship for the rest of my life. Then again, the way the world is, if you don't have a good career or something to fall back on; then I can understand why women "stick it out" with men, or should I say, tolerate them; for security. Regardless, at that age, I wouldn't want to deal with all that harassing crap of infidelity. Life is too short to waste it like that.
2006-12-26 17:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your relationship ended - not your world. You have family (adult children), health (I hope), and was over 40 when you started with this supposedly "wonderful guy".
Hey girl, it's time to move on - hopefully to a better relationship this time. This guy just didn't "sound" that good to me. Find something that you enjoy doing - and jump in! Spend the time you've missed with your children. If another man is in the picture, you'll find him - if not, there are all kinds of relationships. TIP: next time, be sure the guy respects and cares for you and that he doesn't have the same "qualities" of this last one.
2006-12-26 17:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by Betty T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just get on with your life... Time isn't waiting for none of us, go out and join a club,pool league anything to get your mind back in the saddle. Don't waste ten years like I did!!!
Remember this, "It does not matter whats behind us or what is before us compared to what is in us"
2006-12-26 17:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by Myspace/UltraFMonline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Power to you! Good riddance. Now widen your horizon and meet other people- men.... 50 is the new 40, right.? Say yes!!!.... because I can imagine myself emancipated at 50..... a new life- just me, myself and I. Life is too short to waste on losers.
2006-12-26 17:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically find some one who loves you for the way you are.
And never wants you to change unless you want to.
50 isn't that old your still pretty middle age and kicking.
you can do it if you find someone who shares the same interests and loves you for who you actually are.
be yourself.
2006-12-26 17:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by Millie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this..he is disrespecting you! Your only 50 years young, find someone else! Try a website yourself! Please do not allow this man to be in your presences any longer.
2006-12-26 17:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by nene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got lots of time left dear.iam 58 and i didnt give up.just keep looking for that right guy.there are lots of them out there.
2006-12-26 17:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋