your girlfriend/boyfriend of five years walked out? The reason was "I don't know", she refused the idea of you visiting starting two months before dumping you and started cutting normal phone conversation short from about an hour to 10 minutes(it was a semi-long distance relationship), and suddenly new guys were popping up that were, and I quote, "nothing to worry about" even though they make comments like "You've got a great rack" and it doesn't bother your partner that these are her new friends and that's how they talk to her. Anyway, your back story in this is you are very compassionate and sensitive to her needs, you trust her and don't worry about the new friends other than saying "Those other guys worry me, but I trust you", you've been there for her whenever she needed comforting or a self esteem boost. You both wanted to get married and you were going to buy the ring. Guys or Gals, what did you think. Ladies, if you did this..why? Were you hiding something?
2006-12-26 17:29:19 · 18 answers · asked by Che G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, it's over....I was just curious what ya'll thought about the situation from what I wrote :)
2006-12-26 17:36:40 · update #1
She is dating other guys. Don't waste your money on a ring and don't waste your time on her. You sound like a really great guy. Wait for an equally great girl to come along before you think of marriage. This gal isn't the one. No question.
2006-12-26 17:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think that she either *does* know and doesn't want to talk about it, or that she's feeling a general urge to move on. It seems from your description that the "leaving" partner had known about the impending breakup for some time, and just hadn't mentioned it.
If I were in the situation of the "being left" partner, I'd very much want to know why and to get some closure. If it wasn't available, I'd mourn the relationship and move on.
2006-12-26 17:35:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kerkyon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is cheating or is too stupid to realize she is jepordizing your trust by involving herself in scenerios that make you question. I had the same thing happen to me (long distance romance) and the girl was super cute, which made me worry a bit. Eventually the letter's stopped and she didn't return my phone calls. Funny how once I moved on and met another girl, she started calling again. The upshot, it you think something is going on, it probably is and move on - don't let yourself be made a fool of. Nice guys usually finish first, but get screwed here and there by the loser girls. Good luck!
2006-12-26 17:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by whitney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From this information, it sounds to me like this woman had low self esteem and is possibly getting compliments/attention from other men and she thinks the grass is now greener on the other side. Even though it hurts, I think that you are better off without her. You will meet someone else eventually that appreciates the effort and trust that you were offering her. You can't make someone want to stay in a relationship when they don't want to be there.
2006-12-26 17:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by Ginger P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without the least doubt, she had other guys moving in, and she certainly was not honest with you.
Put it down as one of life's growing experiences that we all have to go through of one kind or other.
You deserve better, by the sound of you; so right prevailed in the end.
Just thank God that He revealed it to you before you went too far.
Look for nice fish in nice places.
All the best for a very fine future.
2006-12-27 19:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by dr c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry about your situation, but she's not worth worrying about, she's hiding a ton of things and if you were always there for her then you deserve better. The best thing for you is to move on.
2006-12-26 17:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are she isn't being honest with you. Perhaps the long distance thing is too much for her to handle. You need to sit with her face to face and discuss a few things. Sounds to me like something is going on and she may think if she sees or talks to you, you may pick-up on it. If something is telling you that something is wrong...chances are there is something wrong. Good Luck.
2006-12-26 17:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I havent done this myself but it sounds like the distance is a big issue, she couldnt deal with you being gone or away. its my feeling that she moved on along time ago much before she broke it off. Women are complicated I know but I get the feeling that she was cheating on you for awhile. But keeo your chin up, you will find someone else!
2006-12-26 17:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by CherryRed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 00:47:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiding that she was cheating on you all this time. Wake up and see the real picture. Move on to someone else.
2006-12-26 17:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋