A guy broke my heart. We go back like 6 years, we hung out a lot back then and even fooled around a couple times, and I had a crush on him, then we lost contact. We got back into contact a couple months ago and started sleeping together right away. I just automatically thought we would become bf/gf when we started sleeping together. I guess because in the past all my r/ships started that way. So we are sleeping together, and I tried to bring our r/ship to the next level, but he keeps saying he just wants to keep it casual. It's breaking my heart, but I love him and I can't stay away!!! I keep getting mad at him, but then I apologize, and then I sleep with him again, and we're back where we started. I just can't stay away from him. He has some sort of hold on me. But every time he says he doesn't want a serious r/ship it seriously breaks my heart. I don't know what to do. I don't have the strength to stay away.
2006-12-26 17:22:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow - this is a really painful cycle for you. Can you start getting involved in something else - anything to really take your attention so you can stay away from him? What you are doing to yourself seems really unhealthy - and will hurt your view of yourself. And tell your self the BAD things about him becuase while he may be good guy the end result is that he is hurthing you and he keeps letting that happen. Just rmemeber - he has been honest with you - he has told you he does not want a serioucs relationship with you. what are you there for?
OR you could just decide to stay with him as long as he will have you and hurt a lot in the process. maybe just being with him is worth all the pain.
2006-12-26 17:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by midtownirene 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't have the strength to stay away at this stage, you will have to make sure you have the strength to hurt much worse then you do now in the event that you become even more attached emotionally only to have things go south. You must tell him exactly what you feel and then brace for the worst. But you might be surprised. Good luck!
2006-12-26 17:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by TCSO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to walk away from him, if for nothing else then do it to save your sanity. I had to walk away from someone i loved very deeply in september, it was one of the hardest things i ever did in life. But wouldn't you rather be happy with someone who truly loves you then with someone who's only using you for sex?
The only way i got up enough strength was to go into therapy, i see my counselor twice a week and there's rarely a time where i don't bring this person up in my sessions. But she wasn't serving me any purpose, she was getting everything she wanted out of me and giving me nothing in return. And as hard as it was i realized that i had to end everything and walk away from her, i spended this weekend crying over her, i haven't talked to her in 3 months and the pain is still very fresh. So my advice to you is to walk away and find someone who will truly love you. Good Luck!
2006-12-26 17:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get all of your courage and say no to him and stay away from him...temptation is a b*** . Try your best to stay completley away from him...change your number and try to avoid him. He is a jerk and he dosent deserve you...Karma is a b*** and he will get whats coming to him later on. ...Guys can be so evil...he is just playing with you and he will keep hurting you like this. You need to get away from him now...before he messes your life up..and dont even think that getting pregnate will keep him...now and days guys dont give a crap..Good luck and try to keep busy and find someone new and that will ease your heartbreak..go out with your gurlies..GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-26 17:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hon hes just not that in to you to quote Greg Berhard. Hes using you for sex. If I was you I would avoid him at all cost before you get pregnant by this loser and end up with a child you cant support and no help from him....RUN AWAY FAST
2006-12-26 17:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IT JUST SOUND LIKE HE PLAYING WITH YOUR HEAD
HE NOT LOOKING FOR ANYTHING BUT WHAT HE GETTING
SO YOU NEED TO LEAVE HIM ALONG OTHER WISE YOU
WILL CONTINE TO BE HURT, AS LONG AS YOU STAY IN
THE SITUATION THEN IT WILL ONLY GET WORST. TIME
TO CUT ALL TIES. AND FIND SOMEONE THAT WILL LOVE
YOU. SUGGESTION THOUGH DONT JUMP SO QUIICK
IN A SLEEPING WITH SOMEONE THAT YOU DONT REALLY
KNOW. OTHER WISE YOU WILL FALL IN THIS TRAP OVER
AND OVER AGAIN. GOOD LUCK.
2006-12-26 17:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard for you, but you need to decide what type of relationship you want. Once you decide this, your answer is simple. If he can't give that to you, he is NOT the person for you. Don't sell yourself short and settle for bulls----!!!Love yourself more than you love anyone else and remind yourself that your worth it.
2006-12-26 17:27:27 · answer #7 · answered by rememberns 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your gonna have to be strong and just dont c him at all. he is lapping it up he knows he can have you anytime. do you really want to be his little you know what you deserve better. the relationship is just not going to happen.
2006-12-26 17:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is really inconsiderate. i don't think he really cares for you. just stop sleeping with him and have a normal friendship with him. he's really not worth it. it must be hard, but it must be done
2006-12-26 17:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by Deesa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go see a psychiatrist....and run from this guy as fast as you can.
2006-12-26 17:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by Michael 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋