i mean he is the sweetest.He takes care of my kids when i need the help,since im a single parent.And he is there for me when i need him.But i always seem to push him away.Why?maybe fear mmm.I feel that there is no way that this guy can involve himself with someone that has kids already.For what.! he is so young he deserves so much more but i do like him alot though im so confused .
2006-12-26 17:17:03 · 9 answers · asked by marty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The age is no big deal. You should find out if he wants to marry you, though.
2006-12-26 17:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by electroberry1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age is not the issue, but the thing that cautions a man is investing his life and effort in someone else's kids and the nagging doubt that he will ever have any of his own. Because having and rasing children is the greatest work of any human being, and everyone has a desire to hold their own flesh and blood in their arms before they die, it makes the inevitable end of our own lives more tolerable. And it could be he is having second thoughts about settling down so soon, it's the "bird in the hand" issue, you'll just have to convince him he's got the best catch he'll ever find right now ;)
2006-12-27 01:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you like a person, it is not a mandate that you need to marry him. You can consider him as a brother, friend,.... Or even consider him as your son.... Sorry for this comment when you have a confussion to marry him. A mother has all the liberty on her son and you still can show a motherly or a sisterly love to him to day and for ever.
Just think a little before deciding for a marriage. If this guy is your son, what will be your feeling if he weds to a girl 7 years elder to him.
I do not blame for your feeling, because you are still young for a mate. But with whome is the question.
DECIDE LOGICAL.
2006-12-27 01:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt give the age difference any thought! If he likes your children and they like him...gee what more could you ask for? Dateing a single parent is very common nowdays Maybe he DESERVES you as much as you DESERVE him? Dont worry. Sit him down and talk to him about your feelings. He is a grown man, he's 25 not 15. He is old enough to decide for himself what he wants. That is HIS decision, not yours. So talk to him! Sounds like a great guy. Give yourself some credit, JUST because you have two children do you think you aren't attractive? Come on friend... GO FOR IT!!!!!
2006-12-27 01:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by drew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe so yes, its the other way around 4 my man n i , r age difference is more then what u 2 are. u might push him away because u may have fear of bein hurt again, or u just think he deserves so much n unsure u can give it 2 him.
2006-12-27 01:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by thatsspoiledangel2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is talk to him. yeah he's 25 that doesnt mean he has the mind of an 18 year old (no offense to anyone--but guys this age want to explore the world---whats out there) since he's in his mid twenties im pretty sure he knows what he wants. my brother was 31 and married a 41 year old women and she is a grandma. so it would be best that you talk to him and ask him what he wants.
2006-12-27 01:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by JANE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
25 and 32 isn't all that much difference right now. If he were 15 and you were 22, they yes, that would be a problem.
It sounds like he is a good man. If you love each other you guys will do fine
2006-12-27 01:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
of course there will always be that little bug in your head reminding you of your age, but as a guy, I must say I've never cared about age, none of the guys I know do, not sure if this is how other men feel or not....
2006-12-27 01:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by old school 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you push him away, but age difference isn't always a big deal and if HE is willing to take on your kids then you should be willing to let him. :-) I think it can work pending you get over whatever is making you nervous.
2006-12-27 01:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by TCSO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋