You see, most women don't like to admit this, thinking that someone will accuse them of being shallow.
2006-12-26 17:12:33 · 23 answers · asked by riptor1987 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im not a girl but I know a lot of girls will say something about how personality really matters. But studies have shown that what a women wants is rarely what she says she wants. In addition, her "priorities" or "characteristics" in a guy can change according to the guy. Thus if her #1 thing she wants is a "nice" guy. She may meet a good looking guy who is funny. And her new answer will be she likes "funny" guys. However, many times they are not aware that it was the guy's looks that altered her "wants".
And lastly, a good looking guy, will "seem" more kind, fun, funny, nice, etc etc ...because he is good looking. Its totally circular. A good looking guy can tell an average joke, and the girls will laugh histerically, saying later "OMG, that guy is SOOOO funny!"
Im assuming you are basically asking this question cuz you really know whats going on. Of course, there are still some girls that go for personality traits, but they are far fewer than the 90% of girls that SAY they arent into looks.
Also, Im sure a lot of girls here will admit to the importance of looks, but mainly because of the phrasing of your question and also that the question will probably attract girls that are willing to admit it. However, when asking most girls randomly, almost all say they do not consider looks the most important characteristic.
2006-12-26 17:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by wizexel22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm more than willing to admit that I like a handsome face, but that's not all I consider when choosing a guy to date. The inside is the most important part, in my opinion. Choosing someone only for their looks would be like choosing an beautiful car that wouldn't run over something that didn't look as good, but was dependable, or choosing a fancy book with blank pages over a beat-up book with an interesting story. I'll take interesting and reliable any day.
2006-12-26 17:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I will honestly say I DO not like guys based on their appearance. He could look like Paul Walker but if he has the personality of a wet blanket or is a total arrogant jerk, I would not give him a second glance.
Personality is KEY and I love a guy with a sense of humor. I really could care less what he looks like, just as long as he is a genuinely nice person and takes care of himself (good hygiene, etc.) then I am all for it.
Looks fade.
:)
2006-12-26 17:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I'm not a girl, but from the answers I've seen from the ladies and from similar questions I've seen asked of guys...well, the answers seem to be similar, most seem to say someone who's easy on the eyes but a personality keeps it going, maybe we're not really all that different after all :)
2006-12-26 17:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by Che G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already thing you know the answer, why are you asking? I have picked men based on looks in the past, but I outgrew that years ago. Looks fade. It's what's inside that really matters in a person you're sharing a life with.
2006-12-26 17:16:05 · answer #5 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would pick John. He seems so much nicer and stable. Although he may be awkward and has zero experiences with girls, I would rather have someone who I can be myself around with. Justin 'loses his temper sometimes' doesn't seem like something I want in a boyfriend.
2016-05-23 09:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first attraction is to looks, but if the guy is conceited or has other character flaw then it doesn't matter how good looking he is. But I will also say this, there have been a few times in my life when I have been attracted to men who are kind of ugly but have a strong attraction appeal to me, so really I think sex appeal isn't ALL looks.
2006-12-26 17:18:41 · answer #7 · answered by jabbergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks are like 40 % of the whole deal. if hes ugly, no way. but he cant have a bad personality either. so yes, i suppose im honest, or what some people might call "shallow". every relationship needs sexual attraction to work and you cant have a sexual attraction to an ugly person.
2006-12-26 17:17:11 · answer #8 · answered by Sareeg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK I'll admit it, i did it, but i continued seeing him after i saw what a good person he was! He was supposed to be a one night thing but he let me sleep in and made me pancakes, hot and sweet, can't go wrong with that! we're engaged now, so that's not always a bad thing, there has to be a physical attraction too, u can't always go on their personalities i mean how do you get know how they are are anyway?
2006-12-26 17:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you want someone nive to look at! Looks are obviously the first thing you notice when you meet someone because you haven't gotten the chance to speak with them to get more in depth into their personality...so yes, looks do count at first, but it's about so much more
2006-12-26 17:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋