I have dated this guy for 3 yrs. & he has cheated on me 3 times(just kissing them) & he has been very controlling to me. I have always been faithful to him & I never broke up with him when he was bad to me. Just recently I met this guy and we have become extremely good friends! Just hanging out with each other and he really understands me and does so much for me! He has shown me in 3 days what I haven't had in 3 years. But I don't want to fall for him because we are best friends and I really do love this guy, but Im just really confused on what to do. Because now my boyfriend is starting to say I love you so much and I want you to do the things you love doing! Because he use to tell me that I can not go to the golf course when he was there or I couldn't go deer hunting...he was very jealous of everything too....Im just sooo confused and I do not know what to do...should I stick with my boyfriend or maybe try something new!?
2006-12-26 17:08:37 · 13 answers · asked by Lisa H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave your boyfriend but don't do it because you like this other guy. Instead, do it for yourself and then be happy to have the freedom later to go to the other guy. I say that because if you immediately jump to someone else it could cost you in high expectations during a period of trying to get over a three year relationship.
2006-12-26 17:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by TCSO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. He cheated on you 3 times. Controlled you. Doesn't feel safe. It can become an abusive relationship with him beating you up. You never know. Go for the new guy, it worth to date him and see how is it going. By the way it isn't a good idea to drag dating for so long. Date, talk about the important issues. Don't resort for sexual relationship until you are engaged. Then if you can work out the differnces, commit to work hard on whatever comes in the life ups and downs. (but not accepting cheating or abusive controlling LOL) Then go for it! Being best friends can transform to great marriage!
2006-12-26 17:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by nurturinghome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the boyfriend. Shop around. You do not want a guy who cheats or is controlling. Your boyfriend will say anything now, that he thinks he's losing you. Don't listen. He hasn't changed, he's just acting different because he feels threatened. You do not need to have a boyfriend all the time. Be by yourself until you find a nice guy.
2006-12-26 17:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by Dianne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHERE IS YOUR MOTHER?
I would think that she is not with you, because if she was, she would tell you to run from him so fast your legs would hurt. The next time that boyfriend saw you (if you were my daughter) it would be on the side of a milk carton. A relationship should be based on mutual respect and TRUST. Do you ever see yourself really trusting this person. So he tells you that it was 'just a kiss' how do you really know? Because the cheater himself told you? come on....
YOu have doubts about him or you would not have posted...follow them and trust your instincts
THis person is NOT ready for a real relationship with you and you deserve better.
2006-12-26 17:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be nicer to you because he senses that he does not have your full attention anymore. When a guy changes his habits just to keep you, the changes never last. I don't know how old you are but just try to picture your life 5 years from now. Who do you want to spend your time with? Who do you think would give you 5 happy years?
2006-12-26 17:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by All This and Brains Too! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being treated like dirt and your boyfriend is panicked that he will loose you when you find that there are men who will treat a woman as an equal and not as a servant. In brief, dump the loser, maybe he'll learn to treat the next woman in his life better. Sounds like he won't have problems finding them.
2006-12-26 17:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So now he says you can do what you love to do, it is okay. Before he would not let you do anything. So you had to wait to get his permission for you to do things like you like. You let him control your thoughts and what you yourself wanted. Dump him, three years has not taught him anything but more ways to control you, and you have only learn to let him control you. He is a cheater anyway, get someone that is not a controller.
2006-12-26 17:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the people that "you" want to be with, dont want you back...even tho u've gone out with this guy for 3 years...he's treated you like sh*^. if this new guy has been so good...i say go with him. dump the old bf...and be friends with the new one and when the time feels right...ask the new guy out on a date or somethin.
2006-12-26 17:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know and one will have to pray about this. I do not know what type of ties you have with the person you're are with. The grass looks good on the other side but be careful it turns sometimes.
2006-12-26 17:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg i went thru the exact same thing only he cheated on me 4 times and treated me terrably....when i got a nice guy friend then he sayed''i love you'' like 7 times a day the i fell for my friend and i wouldnt evr change it that guy treated me terrably!!!!!i would tell him that its over
2006-12-26 17:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋