my very close friend got married last year now she has a kid but her husband treets her like a slave,in her home she is only ment for work and hardly she gets time to be with her kid her trouble some story takes my breath and touches my heart i dont know how do i help her should i contact police or TV9 but i fear if every thing happens well good but if any thing goes wrong its a big trouble adding to her life which i dont want to do ...what do i do is there any way in which i could help her to make her life happy with her family ???? wil she be happy with her family again ???? will her husband change in the way she wants him??? an example to his cruelty is he adds perfume in her food so that she does not eat much....
2006-12-26 17:07:12 · 16 answers · asked by shiva k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Fact of life is that such marriages don't last long either they end in divorce or suicide by the aggrieved party. But in case you think it can be amended by some way then best course is to send her to women organisation that deals with such matters . These women welfare NGOs try to bring about amicable settlement between parties by taking help of physiologist & if all end well then some relief can come in their matrimonial life but usually the husbands in such cases feel humilated & may start the taking revenge from the wife for such an act.
2006-12-26 17:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar problem and i kno exactly how you feel. You should talk to a lawyer first, tell them the situation, and ask about the possibilities and how much of a chance there would be that her life would be better if you took any reall legal action(calling 911 etc). If the chances are slim maybetalk to her try to get her to divorce him, maybe get a restraining order, if she has a good chance of getting out of there w/out him being able to punish her beforehand, you should call local authorities as soon as possible and let her live a happy life with her kid.
2006-12-27 01:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by CC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every human beings have a right to LIVE.Why can"t she take a step to come out of this life? Nobody can live with a pervert. If she wants to live happily with her child SHE has to decide it first, and after that you help her in all ways. The seperation may teach him some lessons, and she can atleast eat her food and take care of her child. She should know her fundamental rights first. Otherwise what is the meaning of LIFE?
2006-12-27 02:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by Bharathi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Dear...
Please don't take any negative step... Try to support her... But, plz don't interfere in her personal life, that will spoil her married life completely... Look for a right time to come, it will soon dry off the dirt from the room of lovingness...
God Bless U & All the best
Sur
2006-12-27 02:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt your friend have a family of her own? or even in-laws? why hasnt she complained to any body? how come she ended up having a kid with such a man? well the best you can do for her is encourage her to revolt. there is no reason why she should take all ths ****. talk to he family too. and then help her get a divorce.
2006-12-27 01:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by urfriendfrlife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married ? Are the girl's parents, brothers, alive and aware of the problem ? The initiative has to come from the girl herself. Is she eduacted ? She has to take the help of some women's organisation. Immature handling of the situatioin will unnecessarily complicate matters.
2006-12-27 20:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by Truth ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's really hard to get a woman to see her self as worth more than taking abuse. my aunt took abuse from her husband for over 20 years. he physically abused her so bad that she can hardly hear out of one of her ears, among other problems that she has now. it took about 22 years for her to finally say 'enough'. we tried everything we could to get this woman to see what was going on. her husband even went to jail a few times but she finally had to get fed up with what was going on. if you pray you can do that, but that's pretty much all you can do if talking to her hasn't worked. i'm not saying to stop trying though.
2006-12-27 01:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by Annie Rod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant do anything in that case Shiva
its this women's foolishness whats making them suffer in India women's have more rights then men do but this women's who gets abused, beaten up, nr treated like slaves then to cant live there hubby i hate this kind women n my sis one of those co-dependent women
if u really want help her make her understand that she can live much respectful life if she try to be strict to her hubby say no if her in laws r making her work like donkeys n say her hubby that she is his wife n not slave better he gives him the same respect what husband give to his wife's n if he tries to beat her or threaten just take help of her family member n go to police
sometimes mans understand words but sometimes only action can make them understand what one wants to say
if Ur friend really wants live happily with her its her only first who has to change they way she thinks n the way she work like n slave in her own home she women of house she should get respect there n if she don't get better live that hell make her own heaven by herself god gave us such an priceless life y to waist it by being a slave of an idiot who don't know how treat her own wife ask her to change the way she living get respect n love from her hubby or live that jerk he don't even deserve to be any ones life partner d
god bless you
2006-12-28 04:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by shabana o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot do any such things without the consent of your close friend. you can only support her in her difficult times but she is the one who has to decide how to lead her life.
2006-12-27 09:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by Cave Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her to find out , proper solution herself if she is educated and can find a job or you can help to find job for her then only she can take next step..to get out of this situation.
2006-12-27 01:29:52 · answer #10 · answered by deepaklbhatia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋