Evaluate my relationship?

Question

Im 26 he's 27. Weve been married for a year and some change. We had little squabbles here and there like normal couples, but for the past month hes been acting strange. When I try to talk to him I get dismissed or a terse response. Whenever he wants sex (a lot) I feel like I have to say yes. And sex isnt even fun anymore b/c hes so aggressive it verges on sadism. On Christmas day in a friends house I kinda embarrassed him (long story) but I made a semi public apology. When we got home he kept rehashing what happened. He pinned me against the wall and yelled at me like a child. I was so pissed, I made him sleep in the living room and gave him the silent treatment. Hes been trying to apologize but Im not having it. Anyway if things continue like this i know were headed for divorce. Ive tried talking to him but like I said he is so unresponsive. What should I do?

Answer 1

Marriage Consulor.
sometimes marriage ruins things because you sometimes don't always know what your partner is really like.
if he refuses to talk or take the marriage consueling.
leave.
he shouldnt be pinning you and yelling at you. im glad you didnt fight back.
do what you think is best
good luck.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

There are always two sides to every story, but in this story, only you and your husband know what's truly going on. It's difficult to look from the outside to the inside of a tentative marriage; but according to the situation in which you have described, it appears as though it starts off mental, has lead to semi-abusive, and is on the verge of downward spiraling affect. Each action has lead to the next, which could mean, the S & M affect in the bedroom, along with the embarrassment in public, lead to the action within the home of the semi-physical abuse. You know the answer already, it seems as though you are searching for some outside thought to help lead you down the thought of a"it's okay." It's not okay for a man to physically handle a woman in the manner in which you have described, because it can lead to more physical and aggressive abuse. Research this for yourself and pay attention to any change of behavior that is not in the norm of what you know of him. Try these links:

http://www.metrodcmarriage.org/id28.htm (offers links to dealing with a troubled marriage)

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/domesticviolence.html (educates on what domestic violence really is)

http://www.ndvh.org/ (domestic violence hotline and information)

Please do look into the aforementioned links, think before you react, and be Safe....Take care....(smiles)

Answer 4

i dont understand the young ppl today when there iis a prmble they want to get divorce we had a 1st yr of marriage that was full of me crying i was very spoiled and was very home sick it wasnt i dint love my husband but i missed being spoiled my folks had a maid and we didnt just dumb stuf he wanted to do things i didnt but u learn to sit down and work it out we sat down one time and wrote the 5things we would change in each other and talkd it out we even prayed about alot of it and god brought us closer than i thought we dould b we will have our 29th ann soon and we are lovers and best frieds as well as each others spouses

Answer 5

Ask him to change his attitude, if not, keep a distant from him as silent treatment like U have done

Answer 6

OMG! He sounds abusive. You need to get out of the situation NOW before you get seriously injured.

Answer 7

sounds like he needs some medication and you both need to talk things out .maybe with professional help if just trying to talk it out doesn't help. good luck

Answer 8

He could be on a drug like crystal meth/ Ice.